Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love

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    Today’s woman still wants a man who can provide and protect—in simple terms, he has access to resources .
     
     
    Dr. David Buss, professor of psychology at the University of Texas, heads the area of Individual Differences and Evolutionary Psychology. In his groundbreaking work on human mating, he conducted the biggest ever cross-cultural examination of people’s preferences for a mate when he sampled the responses of 10,047 people in thirty-seven cultures. He covered modern and primitive cultures and cultures that practiced socialism, communism, capitalism, monogamy, polygamy, and all religious beliefs. He found that across the board women valued a mate’s resources twice as highly as men do. His research confirmed what all other tests since the 1930s have shown: Women value a man’s financial prospects as being twice as important as men value a woman’s financial prospects.
    Women have always needed to be able to identify cues to a man’s resources or his potential to acquire them. Buss also tested 1,491 Americans using the same tests and got the same results as the tests carried out in the 1930s—women value a man’s resources. We studied 1,295 ads in the personal columns of magazines and newspapers and found that women list resources as a desired trait in a partner eleven times more often than men do. Whereas men asked for health and youth in women, women sought resources and “sincerity,” which translates into commitment of his resources to her.
    Women are attracted to high-status men because status is a clear sign of a man’s ability to control resources. That’s why it’s common to see a champion boxer whose face looks like road kill surrounded by young, attractive women. Not necessarily smart women either, but young, attractive ones—that is, good potential gene carriers. Think Hugh Hefner at the Playboy Mansion.
    All surveys conducted on male and female mate-selection preferences show how women consistently give a high rating to a man’s status, prestige, power, position, and financial prospects, whereas men rate these attributes as low when selecting a female mate. 2 Women see these attributes as highlydesirable in a long-term partner, but they are less important in a casual sex partner. These studies also found that women place high value on education as an indicator of resources, confirming the truth in the old cliché that women prefer to marry doctors and lawyers. In other words, he has no resources now, but he will have them soon. Buss found that women in every culture rate a potential mate’s resources significantly higher than men do, ranging from 38% more important to German women, to 63% more important to Taiwanese women, and to 87% for Indian women.
    Women everywhere complain that there are few eligible bachelors available. Yet every café, restaurant, disco, club, and office building employs unattached males to whom these women are blind. This is because the female criterion for “eligible bachelor” is a man who has sufficient resources—or the potential to get them—to provide for her and her offspring, and few women believe they will find him serving coffee in a café, so they tend not to even notice him.
    Women are generally blinded to men who work in low-revenue jobs .
     
     

Wealthy Men Give Women More Orgasms
     
    In 2008, evolutionary psychologist Dr. Thomas Pollett from Newcastle University and coresearcher Professor Daniel Nettle conducted research that found that the pleasure women get from making love is directly linked to the size of their partner’s bank balance and resources. They found that the wealthier a man is, the more frequently his partner has orgasms. Pollett and Nettle surveyed 1,534 Chinese women with male partners and analyzed the in-depth interviews about their personal lives, including questions about their sex lives, income, and other factors.
    They found that 121 of these women (7.9%) always had orgasms during sex, 408 women

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