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(26.6%) had them often, 762women (49.7%) sometimes had them, and 243 women (15.8%) orgasmed rarely or never. These figures are very close to those of women in European and Western countries. They also found that the frequency of women’s orgasms increased with the income or wealth of their partners. Although a number of other factors also affected women’s orgasm rate, money was the most powerful one.
The higher a man’s income and resources goes, the higher women’s orgasm frequency rises .
These findings are consistent with what we reported in
The Definitive Book of Body Language
. We discussed women’s orgasm rate relative to a man’s body symmetry and attractiveness, and the Pollett-Nettle study shows how a man’s resources are an even more powerful force than his appearance.
Pollett, Nettle, and David Buss all believe female orgasms evolved to allow women to bond emotionally with high-quality males by signaling to a man that she is highly sexually satisfied, and therefore unlikely to seek sex with other men, and so he should invest in her and her children. The bottom line is that men with more resources are more desirable mates and cause women to experience more orgasms.
The Top Five Things Women Want from Men
Women have always wanted men with resources or the potential to gather resources, so they have developed cues not only to evaluate if a man could get resources but whether he would share them. Essentially, women developed a mental list of behaviors that show a man could be willing to dedicate his resources to her. Only human males share resources with females. Other primate females must find their own food and protection.
Evolutionary biologists and evolutionary psychologists who study human mating strategies have found that women everywhere generally agree on the important characteristics they want in their men. Here are the top five things women say they want from men:
Love
Faithfulness
Kindness
Commitment
Education and intelligence
1. Love
When you study the items on this list, they all add up to what women describe as “love.” A woman wants to be reassured every day that she is loved and adored, and she needs his words and intimacy as proof. The list of favorite things a woman want to hear includes “I love you,” said in as many ways as possible, such as “You’re beautiful,” “You cooked a wonderful meal,” “You did that well,” or an unexpected phone call to say he’s thinking of her. Showing appreciation of anything a woman does in the home is also decoded as an expression of love, and love implies a man will share his resources with her. In divorce cases, women regularly say that men take them for granted and never show appreciation of their efforts in the home. This is because a man feels that his efforts of being the main breadwinner (as most men still are), fixing broken things around the home, solving problems, or changing lightbulbs are sufficient proof of his appreciation and love.
Women believe that if a man really loves a woman, he should show it every day with his words
and
actions. Women want a daily demonstration of love. This is a difficult concept for a man to grasp because he shows the expression of his love by “doing things” for her. He’ll mow the lawn, paint the house, fix her car, take her to the movies, go to work, and payoff the mortgage. The man’s brain is organized to measure his self-worth and contribution by what he does or achieves, not by what he says or feels.
“When I got home last night my wife demanded that I take her someplace expensive.
So I took her to a gas station and then the fight started.”
In
Why Men Don’t Have a Clue & Women Always Need More Shoes
we showed how women’s brains are better organized for language skills than men’s and how words are a form of foreplay for women. Men need to understand that women need to hear actual words of appreciation and love to believe it is true, and to hear them
The higher a man’s income and resources goes, the higher women’s orgasm frequency rises .
These findings are consistent with what we reported in
The Definitive Book of Body Language
. We discussed women’s orgasm rate relative to a man’s body symmetry and attractiveness, and the Pollett-Nettle study shows how a man’s resources are an even more powerful force than his appearance.
Pollett, Nettle, and David Buss all believe female orgasms evolved to allow women to bond emotionally with high-quality males by signaling to a man that she is highly sexually satisfied, and therefore unlikely to seek sex with other men, and so he should invest in her and her children. The bottom line is that men with more resources are more desirable mates and cause women to experience more orgasms.
The Top Five Things Women Want from Men
Women have always wanted men with resources or the potential to gather resources, so they have developed cues not only to evaluate if a man could get resources but whether he would share them. Essentially, women developed a mental list of behaviors that show a man could be willing to dedicate his resources to her. Only human males share resources with females. Other primate females must find their own food and protection.
Evolutionary biologists and evolutionary psychologists who study human mating strategies have found that women everywhere generally agree on the important characteristics they want in their men. Here are the top five things women say they want from men:
Love
Faithfulness
Kindness
Commitment
Education and intelligence
1. Love
When you study the items on this list, they all add up to what women describe as “love.” A woman wants to be reassured every day that she is loved and adored, and she needs his words and intimacy as proof. The list of favorite things a woman want to hear includes “I love you,” said in as many ways as possible, such as “You’re beautiful,” “You cooked a wonderful meal,” “You did that well,” or an unexpected phone call to say he’s thinking of her. Showing appreciation of anything a woman does in the home is also decoded as an expression of love, and love implies a man will share his resources with her. In divorce cases, women regularly say that men take them for granted and never show appreciation of their efforts in the home. This is because a man feels that his efforts of being the main breadwinner (as most men still are), fixing broken things around the home, solving problems, or changing lightbulbs are sufficient proof of his appreciation and love.
Women believe that if a man really loves a woman, he should show it every day with his words
and
actions. Women want a daily demonstration of love. This is a difficult concept for a man to grasp because he shows the expression of his love by “doing things” for her. He’ll mow the lawn, paint the house, fix her car, take her to the movies, go to work, and payoff the mortgage. The man’s brain is organized to measure his self-worth and contribution by what he does or achieves, not by what he says or feels.
“When I got home last night my wife demanded that I take her someplace expensive.
So I took her to a gas station and then the fight started.”
In
Why Men Don’t Have a Clue & Women Always Need More Shoes
we showed how women’s brains are better organized for language skills than men’s and how words are a form of foreplay for women. Men need to understand that women need to hear actual words of appreciation and love to believe it is true, and to hear them
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