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practice, we can all be good at it. Flirting takes no special equipment and costs nothing. Your God-given attributes will do you just fine. A good flirt is merely a woman who has learned to revel in the power of being a woman, is determined to enjoy herself in the moment, and has a benevolent streak. Oh, yes, my lovelies, flirting is all about transferring your good feelings on to someone else, thus making someone else’s day. So, as they say, ‘It’s all good.’”
    â€œExcuse me, Joey.” Florence raised her hand to interrupt. “I’ve been married over twenty years. Bowlin’, I am good at. Flirtin’, not so much. Just exactly how do you go about doin’ it? Especially with a man who I haven’t flirted with since
I was
a baby?”
    â€œI agree that charming a stranger can somehow feel easier than charming a man who has experienced your ‘natural loveliness upon awakening’ and has come to accept your penchant for eating potato chips in bed. But flirting with your life partner is a crucial part of your arsenal. Flirting helps keep romance and playfulness alive in your marriage. It should not stop at the altar; neither should it stop at your twenty-fifth wedding anniversary.
    â€œAnd here’s another tip for you married ladies. Lightly flirt with other men when your husband is with you. Keep your flirtation mild and definitely don’t tease—you don’t want to start an argument. But by letting him see that other men find you attractive, you’re revving up his competitive nature, which translates into him feeling pretty studly about himself and pretty damn lucky to have you.
    â€œSo whether with stranger or spouse, flirting begins and ends with feminine confidence. And it’s this sensual strength that affects how you walk into a room, how you return a hello with your eyes, and how you come across as absolutely fascinating to both men and women. Exploit your charm and you will be surprised how people respond to you in all situations—and how often you get your way.”
    â€œThat sounds kind of…manipulative.”
    â€œAnd phony.”
    â€œThat’s because you’re thinking of flirting as if it’s some kind of public performance with scripted pick-up lines, which is exactly what
bad
flirting is. Think of it as simply presenting the naturally charismatic and curious side of yourself. That’s what true charm is about, and that’s what people react positively to.
    â€œBut I always get stressed out because I’m worried that I’ll look stupid,” another participant revealed.
    â€œOr desperate,” Pia whispered under her breath.
    â€œI wouldn’t know where to start,” Flo admitted.
    â€œYou start simply by SELL ing yourself using my four basic principles of flirtation: S mile, E yes, L isten, L augh. Let’s turn to page thirteen in your Weapons manual.” Joey paused the lecture while everyone pulled out the binders and turned to the correct page.
    â€œWith these basics—all tools each of you already possess—used in tandem with your personal charisma, your social sensuality can successfully step out into the public. So let’s go over them now.
    â€œ SMILE : Often and naturally. We really don’t pay much attention to how much we
don’t
smile. And what’s most amazing about that is, smiling is our most effective calling card, a free and easy spirit lifter, and a surefire antidote to negative energy. A genuine smile is power. With it you can change another person’s entire mood and perspective. Let’s try a little experiment. Close your eyes and smile right now. Stretch the corners of your mouth wide. How does your body feel?”
    â€œRelaxed.”
    â€œHappy.”
    â€œWarm and kind of tingly.”
    â€œWhere in your body do you feel it?” Joey probed. “In your chest and stomach?” Nods of agreement bounced around the