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Authors: Diana Richardson
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awakened in her through the power of a loving penis. Such enchanting experiences are the true outcome of sexual union, but happen much too seldom. Normally at the outset of a relationship, when the situation is fresh and new, magical experiences naturally occur. The knack is to keep re-creating the newness and not fall into habit or take each other for granted.
SEXUAL CONDITIONING INFLUENCES SEXUAL BEHAVIOR
Very few men have conscious control over themselves or their penises in sex, which puts them at a disadvantage in creating love. Lack of control exists because there is a complete absence of constructive information. Instead, unconscious impressions about sex from earliest childhood accumulate and shape the individual, gradually forming a sexual conditioning that distorts the individual’s natural sexual responses or expression.
Although clarification about sex, or useful sex education, is virtually nonexistent in our culture, sex continues to be a driving and distracting force. But at the same time this powerful force is kept under wraps, like a secret. Most people are involved in sex in some way, but nobody acknowledges it, shares information, or even talks about it. Sex shifts away from the body and becomes an aspect of the mind as expressed in thoughts, fantasies, dreams, and voyeurism, and this is true even in self-pleasuring. Sex leaves the realm of the humanly sensitive flesh to become something you think about a zillion times more than you actually do.
When a man finally gets together with a woman, he operates on his accumulated past experiences and guesswork, and hopes for the best. Beneath multiple layers of bravado and performance frequently lies a sexual insecurity that gnaws away at the depths of his being. Such tension will exacerbate any other presexual tension, causing the man to perhaps feel out of control, especially concerning ejaculation.
Correspondence between the Penis and the Vagina
To shift to a higher realm of sexual experience a man has to reevaluate his penis and the way he uses it inside the vagina. He must use his penis with intelligence, maturity, and vision.
Nature intended the penis to operate as a highly sensitive, perceptive magnetic instrument. Although the penis and vagina are physical organs, they are designed to communicate on a refined energy level. The entire penis is a channel, a conduit through which life force moves from man into woman. Woman receives this force and draws it into herself. The response or communication between the genitals can first be felt as a vibrant sensation of aliveness on a fine cellular level. When we are caught up in sexual doing, there is no opportunity to relax and simply be in the body and experience this subtle vitality. When mechanical movements cease, we can begin to tune in to a finer level of sensitivity and delicate sensation.
The vagina and penis as equal and opposite forces are designed by nature for a “happening.” When one fits into the other, man can begin to experience emanations from his penis, like electromagnetic streamings, that become increasingly ecstatic as they spread throughout the body. By developing an inner listening to—and with—his penis and genital region, his overall approach to making love will become more sensitive and conscious.
DEVELOPING SENSITIVITY THROUGH BEING CONSCIOUS
When a man begins to make love with awareness and experiment with stillness, he may be surprised to notice a relative absence of sensitivity in his penis. Without the familiar stimulation and intensity, it’s not so easy for him to find a real inner connection to his genital area. Such lack of sensitivity is to be expected after many years of tense, goal-oriented sex. The good news is that sensitivity will quickly return to the penis through a relaxed style of lovemaking.
On the eighth and final day of our workshops we usually ask the men, “Does your penis now feel more sensitive?” Virtually all raise their hands to confirm a
SEXUAL CONDITIONING INFLUENCES SEXUAL BEHAVIOR
Very few men have conscious control over themselves or their penises in sex, which puts them at a disadvantage in creating love. Lack of control exists because there is a complete absence of constructive information. Instead, unconscious impressions about sex from earliest childhood accumulate and shape the individual, gradually forming a sexual conditioning that distorts the individual’s natural sexual responses or expression.
Although clarification about sex, or useful sex education, is virtually nonexistent in our culture, sex continues to be a driving and distracting force. But at the same time this powerful force is kept under wraps, like a secret. Most people are involved in sex in some way, but nobody acknowledges it, shares information, or even talks about it. Sex shifts away from the body and becomes an aspect of the mind as expressed in thoughts, fantasies, dreams, and voyeurism, and this is true even in self-pleasuring. Sex leaves the realm of the humanly sensitive flesh to become something you think about a zillion times more than you actually do.
When a man finally gets together with a woman, he operates on his accumulated past experiences and guesswork, and hopes for the best. Beneath multiple layers of bravado and performance frequently lies a sexual insecurity that gnaws away at the depths of his being. Such tension will exacerbate any other presexual tension, causing the man to perhaps feel out of control, especially concerning ejaculation.
Correspondence between the Penis and the Vagina
To shift to a higher realm of sexual experience a man has to reevaluate his penis and the way he uses it inside the vagina. He must use his penis with intelligence, maturity, and vision.
Nature intended the penis to operate as a highly sensitive, perceptive magnetic instrument. Although the penis and vagina are physical organs, they are designed to communicate on a refined energy level. The entire penis is a channel, a conduit through which life force moves from man into woman. Woman receives this force and draws it into herself. The response or communication between the genitals can first be felt as a vibrant sensation of aliveness on a fine cellular level. When we are caught up in sexual doing, there is no opportunity to relax and simply be in the body and experience this subtle vitality. When mechanical movements cease, we can begin to tune in to a finer level of sensitivity and delicate sensation.
The vagina and penis as equal and opposite forces are designed by nature for a “happening.” When one fits into the other, man can begin to experience emanations from his penis, like electromagnetic streamings, that become increasingly ecstatic as they spread throughout the body. By developing an inner listening to—and with—his penis and genital region, his overall approach to making love will become more sensitive and conscious.
DEVELOPING SENSITIVITY THROUGH BEING CONSCIOUS
When a man begins to make love with awareness and experiment with stillness, he may be surprised to notice a relative absence of sensitivity in his penis. Without the familiar stimulation and intensity, it’s not so easy for him to find a real inner connection to his genital area. Such lack of sensitivity is to be expected after many years of tense, goal-oriented sex. The good news is that sensitivity will quickly return to the penis through a relaxed style of lovemaking.
On the eighth and final day of our workshops we usually ask the men, “Does your penis now feel more sensitive?” Virtually all raise their hands to confirm a
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