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Authors: Diana Richardson
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making love. Through awareness and presence a man can gradually learn to merge with his penis, and be his penis.
There is a ruthless emphasis in our culture on the size of a man’s penis when erect, and even when it is flaccid. Sometimes the two don’t even correlate, since it’s impossible to estimate the erect size of a penis based on its flaccid state. Convention insists that bigger is better, so a man may have feelings of shame or insecurity because of his size, which affects his capacity to trust, love, and value his own penis.
In the tantric approach, sensitivity and capacity of presence are more important than size and performance. It is true that a bigger penis is able to cause more friction in the vagina, but a penis that is big and hard can also be numb and insensitive in itself, as well as cause discomfort to a woman. However, when there is a shift in our thinking about sex, we can begin to give value to our subtle energy exchanges, which means that any size is perfect. Many men discover that their optimally perceptive sensitive state is when the penis is only half erect. How you do something is much more meaningful than what you do, or the size or rigidity of your sex organ. The penis is innately intelligent, and if man is able to relax back into himself, nature will express itself through him.
PERSONAL SHARING
Focusing on the Inner Body
During the lovemaking retreat we repeated one exercise several times, which involved closing my eyes and focusing just on the inner body (the home in my body) in order to feel a connection with my pelvis. It was always a beautiful experience for me.
When I felt connected with myself, I slowly opened my eyes, still focusing on the inside, and slowly turned to my partner, who had just done the same exercise. While slowly coming together in this manner, I was full of joy and love. I realized that my penis stiffened and I wanted to share this pleasant feeling with my partner and rub my penis against her, as I used to in the past.
However, this time I tried something new. I stayed with my feeling, sensed my penis from inside, and experienced a strange energy filling my body and rising to my heart. This wonderful connection, this streaming of energy from my penis to my heart, was very fulfilling for me and left a deep impression. All this happened just because I was alert and contained my feeling, and did not automatically project my feeling out of my own body.
PERSONAL SHARING
Swaying in a Tantric Dance
One sensation that came up again and again was of a kind of dance happening between penis and vagina. When I was inside my wife, I perceived a soft motion between us—like leaves swaying gently in a warm breeze, or as if my penis were surrounded by soft, warm liquid. Although seen from an outside perspective our bodies did not move, my motions were, in fact, in harmony with her motions, and I felt deeply connected to my beloved in what felt like a dance between the female and the male. As I remember this event, I wonder again about the untapped potential of our sexual organs. Tantra is a true adventure to me. My perceptions during lovemaking have become more refined, diversified, and intense. This makes lovemaking more touching, colorful, and deeply conscious for me, both physically and energetically.
I have a beautiful experience to share: One morning when we were making love and were inside of each other, I felt as if my penis were surrounded by warm liquid honey. My wife’s vagina was soft and receptive, I was very present and focused, and a common space formed between us, a healing space in which my masculinity encountered the femininity of my beloved. Energetically there was just this one space, within which we could love each other in total freedom. After some time we changed position, and my wife suddenly got aroused and had an orgasm. After that her vagina felt tense and tight, and the space between us had disappeared.
PERSONAL SHARING
One with Myself and with My
There is a ruthless emphasis in our culture on the size of a man’s penis when erect, and even when it is flaccid. Sometimes the two don’t even correlate, since it’s impossible to estimate the erect size of a penis based on its flaccid state. Convention insists that bigger is better, so a man may have feelings of shame or insecurity because of his size, which affects his capacity to trust, love, and value his own penis.
In the tantric approach, sensitivity and capacity of presence are more important than size and performance. It is true that a bigger penis is able to cause more friction in the vagina, but a penis that is big and hard can also be numb and insensitive in itself, as well as cause discomfort to a woman. However, when there is a shift in our thinking about sex, we can begin to give value to our subtle energy exchanges, which means that any size is perfect. Many men discover that their optimally perceptive sensitive state is when the penis is only half erect. How you do something is much more meaningful than what you do, or the size or rigidity of your sex organ. The penis is innately intelligent, and if man is able to relax back into himself, nature will express itself through him.
PERSONAL SHARING
Focusing on the Inner Body
During the lovemaking retreat we repeated one exercise several times, which involved closing my eyes and focusing just on the inner body (the home in my body) in order to feel a connection with my pelvis. It was always a beautiful experience for me.
When I felt connected with myself, I slowly opened my eyes, still focusing on the inside, and slowly turned to my partner, who had just done the same exercise. While slowly coming together in this manner, I was full of joy and love. I realized that my penis stiffened and I wanted to share this pleasant feeling with my partner and rub my penis against her, as I used to in the past.
However, this time I tried something new. I stayed with my feeling, sensed my penis from inside, and experienced a strange energy filling my body and rising to my heart. This wonderful connection, this streaming of energy from my penis to my heart, was very fulfilling for me and left a deep impression. All this happened just because I was alert and contained my feeling, and did not automatically project my feeling out of my own body.
PERSONAL SHARING
Swaying in a Tantric Dance
One sensation that came up again and again was of a kind of dance happening between penis and vagina. When I was inside my wife, I perceived a soft motion between us—like leaves swaying gently in a warm breeze, or as if my penis were surrounded by soft, warm liquid. Although seen from an outside perspective our bodies did not move, my motions were, in fact, in harmony with her motions, and I felt deeply connected to my beloved in what felt like a dance between the female and the male. As I remember this event, I wonder again about the untapped potential of our sexual organs. Tantra is a true adventure to me. My perceptions during lovemaking have become more refined, diversified, and intense. This makes lovemaking more touching, colorful, and deeply conscious for me, both physically and energetically.
I have a beautiful experience to share: One morning when we were making love and were inside of each other, I felt as if my penis were surrounded by warm liquid honey. My wife’s vagina was soft and receptive, I was very present and focused, and a common space formed between us, a healing space in which my masculinity encountered the femininity of my beloved. Energetically there was just this one space, within which we could love each other in total freedom. After some time we changed position, and my wife suddenly got aroused and had an orgasm. After that her vagina felt tense and tight, and the space between us had disappeared.
PERSONAL SHARING
One with Myself and with My
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