these fears. Like
me, you may have suffered for a long time without anyone
explaining to you why you feel like you do and you may not even
have been told that it is anxiety. Can you see why these fears can
build up in people? A lack of understanding of their condition,
- 49 -
coupled with the habit of always thinking the worst compounds their
fears. Add this to a tired mind that has lost a lot of its resilience and
you have a whole host of ‘what ifs?’
Some people worry to the extent that they believe everything they
feel is life threatening. A headache becomes a brain tumour; a
stomach ache can become cancer and so on. No matter how many
times their doctor tells them there is nothing wrong with them, they
are never quite convinced. If this is you, then realise these thoughts
of illness are just figments of your imagination, mainly created by
your anxious state. Everything becomes magnified when we are
anxious. Let these thoughts go. Don’t react to them and see them
for what they are - thoughts that carry no weight whatsoever, no
matter how loud they shout.
I truly let my mind chatter if it must. I allowed myself to think anything
and just did not react. The thoughts were not real, but just built up
through my anxious state. The more we try to push them away, the
longer they linger and the stronger their impact. When we welcome
and give room to unwanted thoughts, they lose their significance
and quickly diminish. When you attach a false sense of importance
to a thought, it will often appear more serious than it is. Remember
they are just thoughts and are of no significance. Pay them no
respect. Just say to them: “come if you wish, it’s just anxiety playing
its tricks. Just as my legs wobble when I drink alcohol, with anxiety I
may have silly irrational thoughts but they’re not real”.
The following statement came from a lady who did as I advised and
clearly explains what I’m saying:
“I really did have no control over my own mind before. The more I
tried to over control the less control I had.”
This is very true. In my case, the more I tried to stop thinking or felt
the need to take every thought seriously and unravel it, the less
control I felt I had. It was only when I took my thoughts with a pinch
of salt and just got on with my day, whatever the chatter, that I
noticed a big improvement. They no longer had the fuel of fear to
keep them going.
- 50 -
The best way to alleviate these intrusive thoughts is to allow them
their space by NOT trying to force them out.
Why not try following a negative/scary thought through and ask
yourself the question “What is the worst thing that could happen?
Then ask yourself if it is really going to happen? Is this thought
rational in any way? If you do this, you may find the answer to a
thought you have been so frightened of, so that next time these
thoughts enter your head, deep down inside there will be a part of
you that can see them for what they really are and let them go.
Some people say they have thoughts about harming people close to
them. They know that they won’t, but the thought is there at times.
Again, this is just adrenalin finding a release and creating these
thoughts. That’s all it is, so don’t worry or feel guilty for thinking
them, just see them for what they are - anxiety letting off a little
steam.
If you are having trouble sleeping, then this can be caused by your
mind being too active when your head hits the pillow. If you are
caught in this trap, try not to go to bed analysing the day, trying to
unravel it all and hitting one brick wall after another. However your
day has been, just accept it. There is nothing to work out. You may
find it hard to switch off the constant thoughts that fill your mind, but
don’t try. Just let the thoughts come and let them go. Don’t grasp
them like they are important - they’re not. You may even find you will
drop off to sleep more
me, you may have suffered for a long time without anyone
explaining to you why you feel like you do and you may not even
have been told that it is anxiety. Can you see why these fears can
build up in people? A lack of understanding of their condition,
- 49 -
coupled with the habit of always thinking the worst compounds their
fears. Add this to a tired mind that has lost a lot of its resilience and
you have a whole host of ‘what ifs?’
Some people worry to the extent that they believe everything they
feel is life threatening. A headache becomes a brain tumour; a
stomach ache can become cancer and so on. No matter how many
times their doctor tells them there is nothing wrong with them, they
are never quite convinced. If this is you, then realise these thoughts
of illness are just figments of your imagination, mainly created by
your anxious state. Everything becomes magnified when we are
anxious. Let these thoughts go. Don’t react to them and see them
for what they are - thoughts that carry no weight whatsoever, no
matter how loud they shout.
I truly let my mind chatter if it must. I allowed myself to think anything
and just did not react. The thoughts were not real, but just built up
through my anxious state. The more we try to push them away, the
longer they linger and the stronger their impact. When we welcome
and give room to unwanted thoughts, they lose their significance
and quickly diminish. When you attach a false sense of importance
to a thought, it will often appear more serious than it is. Remember
they are just thoughts and are of no significance. Pay them no
respect. Just say to them: “come if you wish, it’s just anxiety playing
its tricks. Just as my legs wobble when I drink alcohol, with anxiety I
may have silly irrational thoughts but they’re not real”.
The following statement came from a lady who did as I advised and
clearly explains what I’m saying:
“I really did have no control over my own mind before. The more I
tried to over control the less control I had.”
This is very true. In my case, the more I tried to stop thinking or felt
the need to take every thought seriously and unravel it, the less
control I felt I had. It was only when I took my thoughts with a pinch
of salt and just got on with my day, whatever the chatter, that I
noticed a big improvement. They no longer had the fuel of fear to
keep them going.
- 50 -
The best way to alleviate these intrusive thoughts is to allow them
their space by NOT trying to force them out.
Why not try following a negative/scary thought through and ask
yourself the question “What is the worst thing that could happen?
Then ask yourself if it is really going to happen? Is this thought
rational in any way? If you do this, you may find the answer to a
thought you have been so frightened of, so that next time these
thoughts enter your head, deep down inside there will be a part of
you that can see them for what they really are and let them go.
Some people say they have thoughts about harming people close to
them. They know that they won’t, but the thought is there at times.
Again, this is just adrenalin finding a release and creating these
thoughts. That’s all it is, so don’t worry or feel guilty for thinking
them, just see them for what they are - anxiety letting off a little
steam.
If you are having trouble sleeping, then this can be caused by your
mind being too active when your head hits the pillow. If you are
caught in this trap, try not to go to bed analysing the day, trying to
unravel it all and hitting one brick wall after another. However your
day has been, just accept it. There is nothing to work out. You may
find it hard to switch off the constant thoughts that fill your mind, but
don’t try. Just let the thoughts come and let them go. Don’t grasp
them like they are important - they’re not. You may even find you will
drop off to sleep more
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