recovered, it was a transition’, and this is exactly what
it is - the old you comes back in layers. So don’t despair, in time it
can and will return to the normal clear mind you once had as long as
you step out of the way and give it a rest from all this worrying
introspection.
I have said all the things you are probably saying, e.g. “It won’t. I
know nothing else but this now. This is me”. Yes, and at one point,
you could probably never imagine feeling like you do now. I will not
lie to you and tell you that if you accept this strangeness for two
weeks, it will go! Never, ever put a time limit on how long it will take
for the feelings to go away. It took me a few months before I was
totally back to normal and achieved the clear mind I have now, a
mind that allows me to think and function just like I could before I
developed a tired mind (notice I say this often because that’s what it
is). Recovery comes at its own pace, but I did notice myself
gradually improving and becoming more alert, less clogged up.
Recovering can be just as rewarding as the actual recovery and the
little improvements that you will begin to notice help to build up your
confidence.
- 45 -
All those treatments that promise to make you feel better within two
weeks, offering the new miracle cure, just give false hope. It just
can’t happen because it takes time to recover, to thaw out and feel
emotions again. If there were a miracle cure out there, we would all
know about it and someone would be very rich!! What you must do,
for the time being, is accept this muzzy head and the feelings of
strangeness. Do not question them, but accept their true cause
which is the constant worrying about the very symptom itself. The
less we concern ourselves with how we feel, the more we let other
things into our day. This is how to integrate back into normal living,
which is impossible while you spend all of your day worrying and
obsessing about how you feel. You need to care less about how you
are feeling and the more you do this, the more you allow other good
things in. At first you may still find your attention reverting back to
you and how you are feeling. It will do through memory and habit,
but the more you involve yourself with other things, the more
outward looking you will become and the cloud will begin to lift. It
may only be for a few fleeting moments at first, but in time it will
begin to lift more and more.
In my case, I began to understand why I felt this detachment from
people. I believed what I was told and then I stopped worrying about
feeling strange. I went into difficult situations, which meant talking to
people and friends, expecting to feel strange and detached. My
motto was: “If I feel strange, I feel strange”. I stopped worrying
about it and trying to analyse the feelings. I still felt them, but I
stopped worrying about them, and because I stopped anxiously
watching myself, I found I could follow a bit more of people’s
conversation. As time went by, I started to become more interested
in what they were saying, rather than worrying about myself. I had
started to connect with the outside world again. Can you see how
this happened? My habit of watching myself in these situations
lessened and not worrying about how strange I felt replaced the
habit of worrying about how I felt . It became my new habit . If you are
in similar situations, truly accept the strangeness you feel and do not
question any of it. It is temporary and not important. Even if you
have not felt like that for a while and it returns – don’t worry about it.
Memory alone can bring it back, but just live with it for now and, in
time, the accepting gives your mind the rest it needs and enables it
to become clearer and more responsive.
- 46 -
What you must not do is try and force normal feelings. You must
wait for normal feeling to return of their own accord, which, in time,
they will. In your efforts
it is - the old you comes back in layers. So don’t despair, in time it
can and will return to the normal clear mind you once had as long as
you step out of the way and give it a rest from all this worrying
introspection.
I have said all the things you are probably saying, e.g. “It won’t. I
know nothing else but this now. This is me”. Yes, and at one point,
you could probably never imagine feeling like you do now. I will not
lie to you and tell you that if you accept this strangeness for two
weeks, it will go! Never, ever put a time limit on how long it will take
for the feelings to go away. It took me a few months before I was
totally back to normal and achieved the clear mind I have now, a
mind that allows me to think and function just like I could before I
developed a tired mind (notice I say this often because that’s what it
is). Recovery comes at its own pace, but I did notice myself
gradually improving and becoming more alert, less clogged up.
Recovering can be just as rewarding as the actual recovery and the
little improvements that you will begin to notice help to build up your
confidence.
- 45 -
All those treatments that promise to make you feel better within two
weeks, offering the new miracle cure, just give false hope. It just
can’t happen because it takes time to recover, to thaw out and feel
emotions again. If there were a miracle cure out there, we would all
know about it and someone would be very rich!! What you must do,
for the time being, is accept this muzzy head and the feelings of
strangeness. Do not question them, but accept their true cause
which is the constant worrying about the very symptom itself. The
less we concern ourselves with how we feel, the more we let other
things into our day. This is how to integrate back into normal living,
which is impossible while you spend all of your day worrying and
obsessing about how you feel. You need to care less about how you
are feeling and the more you do this, the more you allow other good
things in. At first you may still find your attention reverting back to
you and how you are feeling. It will do through memory and habit,
but the more you involve yourself with other things, the more
outward looking you will become and the cloud will begin to lift. It
may only be for a few fleeting moments at first, but in time it will
begin to lift more and more.
In my case, I began to understand why I felt this detachment from
people. I believed what I was told and then I stopped worrying about
feeling strange. I went into difficult situations, which meant talking to
people and friends, expecting to feel strange and detached. My
motto was: “If I feel strange, I feel strange”. I stopped worrying
about it and trying to analyse the feelings. I still felt them, but I
stopped worrying about them, and because I stopped anxiously
watching myself, I found I could follow a bit more of people’s
conversation. As time went by, I started to become more interested
in what they were saying, rather than worrying about myself. I had
started to connect with the outside world again. Can you see how
this happened? My habit of watching myself in these situations
lessened and not worrying about how strange I felt replaced the
habit of worrying about how I felt . It became my new habit . If you are
in similar situations, truly accept the strangeness you feel and do not
question any of it. It is temporary and not important. Even if you
have not felt like that for a while and it returns – don’t worry about it.
Memory alone can bring it back, but just live with it for now and, in
time, the accepting gives your mind the rest it needs and enables it
to become clearer and more responsive.
- 46 -
What you must not do is try and force normal feelings. You must
wait for normal feeling to return of their own accord, which, in time,
they will. In your efforts
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