love—not for our partner’s sake, but for the sake of love itself. Loving is its own reward.
What Does He Really Want from Me?
The reason a man chooses to be with a woman as an intimate partner—rather than with another man, a cat, or nobody—is because he wants to be intimate with the feminine force of the universe. He’s choosing to open himself in intimacy with someone who can give him feminine love and energy; that’s why he’s chosen a woman for an intimate partner.
If you remember that your man has chosen you as a woman because he wants feminine energy, then you will always know the key to waking him up and attracting him into relationship.
If he’s reading the newspaper it’s probably because the newspaper is the most attractive thing for him in that moment. Since men are modal, they can shift themselves into the realm of news rather quickly. It’s euphoric in a sense, because everything else disappears. His burdens are temporarily relieved.
The special energy you can uniquely offer him in that moment is feminine love. However, if you are angry or hurt, you may want to rip up the newspaper and say “Goddamnit, you’re always reading the stupid newspaper!” Rather than that, you could try leaning over and kissing him. Maybe stand behind him and massage his shoulders a little bit. It’s going to take a really rigid man to sit there looking at the newspaper and not put it down while you are massaging his shoulders—and some men are that rigid.
A key for the woman’s side of the relationship is acknowledging her power of feminine attraction. Because many men tend to be so rigid and stuck in their self-centered world, they need to be attracted by the feminine force. Their rigidity is healed by that force. And then they open in love. When you are in touch with your love, in touch with your heart, and when you offer him your love as a woman, he will be attracted beyond his momentary form of self-involvement or distraction.
The feminine force is a gift that gives energy and life—for instance, putting on really nice music and dancing, giving a simple massage or bringing him a glass of juice in the morning. Your feminine energy makes him feel, “Ahhh. It’s greatto be alive and with you.” The feminine form of love is a gift that enlivens him.
It could be your smile. It could be the beautiful clothes you wear—or don’t wear. It could be the way you put flowers next to the bed. It could be the way you whisper your love to him. It could be anything that has the effect of relieving his sense of burden and bringing him life energy.
Whereas the feminine feels blessed by life and relationships, most men feel burdened. Women feel equally burdened by life and relationships if they are in their masculine mode. The sense of being unburdened, of delight, of energy, of radiance, of enlivenment, of the flow of life itself, is feminine energy. And it comes from your heart of love. When you gift a man with this energy of love he feels you as his cherished woman, rather than a housemaid, a business partner, or a mother. He feels you as a goddess.
For a satisfying intimacy, of course, men must also know how to give feminine energy and women must know how to give masculine energy. But most men are looking for the feminine form of love in intimate relationship, most of the time. Otherwise they might have chosen a gay relationship or a relationship with a very masculine woman. Or perhaps they would have chosen no intimate relationship at all.
Should a Man Obey His Woman?
If a man meekly obeyed his woman, if he just said, “Oh, anything you say, dear,” then he would not be incarnating the masculine force in relationship. Most women aren’t turned on by a man who always does anything she says. Womeninnately know that only a man with his own true vision is strong enough to love her the way she really wants to be loved.
On the other hand, in a relationship, a man learns to submit himself to
What Does He Really Want from Me?
The reason a man chooses to be with a woman as an intimate partner—rather than with another man, a cat, or nobody—is because he wants to be intimate with the feminine force of the universe. He’s choosing to open himself in intimacy with someone who can give him feminine love and energy; that’s why he’s chosen a woman for an intimate partner.
If you remember that your man has chosen you as a woman because he wants feminine energy, then you will always know the key to waking him up and attracting him into relationship.
If he’s reading the newspaper it’s probably because the newspaper is the most attractive thing for him in that moment. Since men are modal, they can shift themselves into the realm of news rather quickly. It’s euphoric in a sense, because everything else disappears. His burdens are temporarily relieved.
The special energy you can uniquely offer him in that moment is feminine love. However, if you are angry or hurt, you may want to rip up the newspaper and say “Goddamnit, you’re always reading the stupid newspaper!” Rather than that, you could try leaning over and kissing him. Maybe stand behind him and massage his shoulders a little bit. It’s going to take a really rigid man to sit there looking at the newspaper and not put it down while you are massaging his shoulders—and some men are that rigid.
A key for the woman’s side of the relationship is acknowledging her power of feminine attraction. Because many men tend to be so rigid and stuck in their self-centered world, they need to be attracted by the feminine force. Their rigidity is healed by that force. And then they open in love. When you are in touch with your love, in touch with your heart, and when you offer him your love as a woman, he will be attracted beyond his momentary form of self-involvement or distraction.
The feminine force is a gift that gives energy and life—for instance, putting on really nice music and dancing, giving a simple massage or bringing him a glass of juice in the morning. Your feminine energy makes him feel, “Ahhh. It’s greatto be alive and with you.” The feminine form of love is a gift that enlivens him.
It could be your smile. It could be the beautiful clothes you wear—or don’t wear. It could be the way you put flowers next to the bed. It could be the way you whisper your love to him. It could be anything that has the effect of relieving his sense of burden and bringing him life energy.
Whereas the feminine feels blessed by life and relationships, most men feel burdened. Women feel equally burdened by life and relationships if they are in their masculine mode. The sense of being unburdened, of delight, of energy, of radiance, of enlivenment, of the flow of life itself, is feminine energy. And it comes from your heart of love. When you gift a man with this energy of love he feels you as his cherished woman, rather than a housemaid, a business partner, or a mother. He feels you as a goddess.
For a satisfying intimacy, of course, men must also know how to give feminine energy and women must know how to give masculine energy. But most men are looking for the feminine form of love in intimate relationship, most of the time. Otherwise they might have chosen a gay relationship or a relationship with a very masculine woman. Or perhaps they would have chosen no intimate relationship at all.
Should a Man Obey His Woman?
If a man meekly obeyed his woman, if he just said, “Oh, anything you say, dear,” then he would not be incarnating the masculine force in relationship. Most women aren’t turned on by a man who always does anything she says. Womeninnately know that only a man with his own true vision is strong enough to love her the way she really wants to be loved.
On the other hand, in a relationship, a man learns to submit himself to
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