even more relaxed, it becomes consumed with even more pleasure. As your body is consumed with incredible pleasure, it relaxes you even more.”
Make sure that she stays relaxed. She will certainly be feeling incredible pleasure.
Then move the pleasure into her head: “Feel the pleasure travel up your body and into your head. Let it completely fill your mind. As your mind is completely consumed with pleasure, it relaxes your body even more. And as you are completely relaxed, feel the pleasure travel up your body and into your head, and let it completely fill your mind.”
You will be able to gauge her level of arousal by the feedback you will feel in your finger from her vagina. Her vagina will be slightly contracting. This is what is called an “orgasmic” state. It is not “coming” which is the “going over the edge.”
Remind her to remain completely relaxed. So long as she is relaxed, she will not be able to “come.”
Continue to talk to her while continuing to gently massage her deep spot. Her vagina will continue to gently contract, but her vagina will not go into the powerful contractions synonymous with “coming.”
This can go on for some time. If you can get her to go for 15 minutes, then she is feeling total peace and continuous ecstasy.
No doubt she has never felt this before.
You can continue this for as long as she remains lubricated and does not become irritated from the rubbing of your finger.
At this point you can do something that is really novel, if you are up for it, and if you really do command respect with her.
Say to her: “Now, as you remain completely relaxed, as you continue to breathe normally, I want you to come. Come now. As you
remain completely relaxed and continue to breathe normally, I want you to come on the inside. Come for me Baby. Come now, as you remain completely relaxed, as you continue to breathe normally.”
Instruct her to come, but also insist that she remain completely relaxed. This will cause a very bizarre orgasm for her. Her orgasm will be very intense, and she may even hallucinate bright colors.
No doubt she has never experienced that before.
Once she has experienced the above, orgasm will have an entirely new dimension of experience for her.
Now it is time to have her experience this in intercourse.
The next night, when in the bedroom, get her naked on the bed and take your time with foreplay to get her aroused and feeling very close to you.
Then initiate intercourse in the missionary position, but this time take it slow. Make your strokes slower. Build up the arousal slowly. Concentrate on her pleasure and titillating her with pleasure while not thinking about your own conquest to drive for the orgasm. The idea is to extend heightened arousal.
Do not think about the pleasure you are feeling in your penis, but instead focus your thinking on the “energy” you are feeling in your stomach and chest. This is a mind exercise to divert your awareness. You basically do to yourself what you did to your woman’s awareness in the previous exercise.
When you and her begin to get close, slow things down and maintain that heightened arousal. Extend this for as long as possible.
If you or her get too close, and “going over the edge” seems eminent, slow the stroking WAY down.
After you and her have recovered, start the stroking slowly again.
After you do this a number of times, an interesting phenomenon will begin. You and her will feel a vulnerability for each other like never before. You and her will feel a closeness like never before. And time itself will begin to have no meaning.
This is the threshold of the “Nirvana” of sexuality that is possible in Tantra. See the Key West Institute for Tantra Studies .
Female Multiple Orgasms
All women are multi orgasmic, some just don’t know it yet. Women secrete prolactin at the time of orgasm, just like men do,
but the hormone does not cause any refractory symptoms in a woman. There is no chemical
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