their looks, but the way they are and what they talk about. Before, girls weren't special. They were ‘just
ok’. My brain wanted unrealistic whores, and it's just now that I've realised how many years I wasted chasing fantasy relations instead of being happy with what life was giving me (which,
in hindsight, were some of the nicest girls I've met). Yet I continued the useless search…
*
In the past I noticed beauty, of course, but never FELT a DESIRE to be with a girl. I directed all my sex drive toward porn. Everything sexual for me WAS porn. I could never think
about me, this guy with this cock, having real sex with a real girl. Now, I feel like sex is the most natural thing to do. ‘Hell yeah it's possible for me to have sex. Hell yeah there's a lot of girls out there wanting to have it with me!’ Suddenly, self-defeating thoughts seem so stupid
and time-wasting. I finally feel what most males feel. And it's awesome.
Effects on libido, romance
Relationships, too, are affected by porn use, which makes sense. Too much stimulation can
interfere with what scientists call pair-bonding, or falling in love. When scientists jacked up pair-bonding animals on amphetamine, the naturally monogamous animals no longer formed a preference for one partner. [30] The artificial stimulation hijacks their bonding machinery, leaving them just like regular (promiscuous) mammals – in which the brain circuits for lasting
bonds are absent.
Research in humans also suggests that too much stimulation weakens pair bonds. According
to a 2007 study, mere exposure to numerous sexy female images causes a man to devalue his real-life partner .[31] He rates her lower not only on attractiveness, but also on warmth and intelligence. Also, after pornography consumption, subjects of both sexes report less satisfaction with their intimate partner – including the partner's affection, appearance, sexual curiosity and performance .[32] And both men and women assign increased importance to sex without emotional involvement.
(Day 125) I am in a long-term relationship, and I can vouch for the fact that quitting helped our sex life. A lot. I had no ED or PE or any other kind of sex-related problems, but compared to what we have now, our sex life while I was fapping was .... dull . Now it is anything but dull, and both of us have stronger libidos than before. I am not exactly sure how – or if – my quitting affected her libido, but she sure is much more interested in sex now :).
*
(Age 50) Over the years, I suggested to my wife various activities straight out of porn stories. She was okay with some of them, but it never satisfied at all. Although we had a decent sex life relative to most people our age, I was always comparing the porn scenarios with my real life and real wife and feeling dissatisfied. Now, things are shifting. During intercourse last night, I felt suddenly very intimate, almost scarily intimate, deep contact I have never experienced before. It felt kind of shocking to me. It was wonderful in a way I can't describe, but I am in a kind of awe over it.
*
(Age 19) Even though I watched porn I was never really one to want sex. TWO guys managed to grab my interest. However, I think porn/masturbation was suppressing my longing
to be with either of them. Since quitting, I suddenly had this intense realization that I really like those two, and I could see myself completely happy in a committed relationship with either. Suddenly it felt like...my heart was reaching out for them. Instead of daydreaming, my body was like, ‘Let's go make this happen in real life.’ All of a sudden I felt this huge wave of some weird attraction-type energy surge over me. [He soon began a relationship with one of
the men.]
*
(Age 30) In the past, sex wasn't emotional. On some level it was like nobody else was there
because I was in my own head the whole time for one reason or another (fantasizing, DE
issues,
ok’. My brain wanted unrealistic whores, and it's just now that I've realised how many years I wasted chasing fantasy relations instead of being happy with what life was giving me (which,
in hindsight, were some of the nicest girls I've met). Yet I continued the useless search…
*
In the past I noticed beauty, of course, but never FELT a DESIRE to be with a girl. I directed all my sex drive toward porn. Everything sexual for me WAS porn. I could never think
about me, this guy with this cock, having real sex with a real girl. Now, I feel like sex is the most natural thing to do. ‘Hell yeah it's possible for me to have sex. Hell yeah there's a lot of girls out there wanting to have it with me!’ Suddenly, self-defeating thoughts seem so stupid
and time-wasting. I finally feel what most males feel. And it's awesome.
Effects on libido, romance
Relationships, too, are affected by porn use, which makes sense. Too much stimulation can
interfere with what scientists call pair-bonding, or falling in love. When scientists jacked up pair-bonding animals on amphetamine, the naturally monogamous animals no longer formed a preference for one partner. [30] The artificial stimulation hijacks their bonding machinery, leaving them just like regular (promiscuous) mammals – in which the brain circuits for lasting
bonds are absent.
Research in humans also suggests that too much stimulation weakens pair bonds. According
to a 2007 study, mere exposure to numerous sexy female images causes a man to devalue his real-life partner .[31] He rates her lower not only on attractiveness, but also on warmth and intelligence. Also, after pornography consumption, subjects of both sexes report less satisfaction with their intimate partner – including the partner's affection, appearance, sexual curiosity and performance .[32] And both men and women assign increased importance to sex without emotional involvement.
(Day 125) I am in a long-term relationship, and I can vouch for the fact that quitting helped our sex life. A lot. I had no ED or PE or any other kind of sex-related problems, but compared to what we have now, our sex life while I was fapping was .... dull . Now it is anything but dull, and both of us have stronger libidos than before. I am not exactly sure how – or if – my quitting affected her libido, but she sure is much more interested in sex now :).
*
(Age 50) Over the years, I suggested to my wife various activities straight out of porn stories. She was okay with some of them, but it never satisfied at all. Although we had a decent sex life relative to most people our age, I was always comparing the porn scenarios with my real life and real wife and feeling dissatisfied. Now, things are shifting. During intercourse last night, I felt suddenly very intimate, almost scarily intimate, deep contact I have never experienced before. It felt kind of shocking to me. It was wonderful in a way I can't describe, but I am in a kind of awe over it.
*
(Age 19) Even though I watched porn I was never really one to want sex. TWO guys managed to grab my interest. However, I think porn/masturbation was suppressing my longing
to be with either of them. Since quitting, I suddenly had this intense realization that I really like those two, and I could see myself completely happy in a committed relationship with either. Suddenly it felt like...my heart was reaching out for them. Instead of daydreaming, my body was like, ‘Let's go make this happen in real life.’ All of a sudden I felt this huge wave of some weird attraction-type energy surge over me. [He soon began a relationship with one of
the men.]
*
(Age 30) In the past, sex wasn't emotional. On some level it was like nobody else was there
because I was in my own head the whole time for one reason or another (fantasizing, DE
issues,
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