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comes with playing with “your dick.” Strap-on play has no unwanted consequences, like pregnancy or an STD. Being penetrated and played with by a lover in a harness is just as fun, intense, and sexually exciting as doing the strapping, and the orgasmic potential is eye opening. Although this chapter is written primarily for heterosexual couples, anyone looking to play with harnesses will want to give it a skim, as
it’s full of crafty ideas for shopping for, playing with, and coming with the aid of a strap-on harness.

Strap-Ons for Straight Couples
    Straight couples have reinvented anal sex, and the Bend Over Boyfriend phenomenon brought on by the how-to video of the same name has skyrocketed harness and dildo sales to heterosexual couples across the nation. Perhaps the fact that straight men are interested in receiving anal exploration from their female partners comes from increased awareness about prostate pleasure—sometimes called “the male G-spot.” Or maybe men are just more comfortable with and confident about their sexuality and can see through all the contrived myths linking male anal sex and homosexuality. And maybe now they feel free to make up their own minds about what they like, because in fact not all gay men like anal sex, and because being penetrated can’t make someone gay. But most likely, because our culture talks about sex more than ever before, happy, horny, and adventurous guys and gals are looking at each other’s bodies like the pleasure playgrounds they were meant to be. And that’s a really good thing.
    Penetration is one of those amazing things that connect you with your lover like nothing else, and it can be an incredible turn-on for both of you. When you plug a man with your finger or fingers, a dildo, or a vibrator, you enter into a realm of pleasure that’s as deep for him as it is intimate for both of you. And for some men it’s like hitting a pleasure switch—even the lightest touch on the outside of the anus shoots him straight to orgasm.

    In almost every sex book you pick up, if you can find a reference to the prostate gland at all (without its being exclusively related to cancer), you’ll notice a few strange things about the way authors deal with the subject. Many impart a homophobic tone that makes even me wonder if I’m repressing anything—and this goes for both male and female authors. It’s as if they wanted you to be absolutely sure they’re straight when they’re telling you about what’s inside guys’ butts, and that you are too, and that everyone’s still straight after they read about it. The concept of male anal penetration obviously carries a lot of stigma and shame for these authors. This would be funny if it weren’t so frustrating trying to get practical sex information out of their books. The other unfortunate thing most books do when they cover real-life, try-this-at-home prostate stimulation (which they do rarely) is rush through the material and present it in a cold context, as if no one would really try this for pleasure. Oh, and did I mention that prostate play, or the enjoyment thereof, has nothing to do with sexual orientation? It doesn’t. End of discussion.
    The prostate gland is located at about the center of the male urogenital system, inside the perineal wall. It sits just below the bladder, producing the fluid that mixes with semen in ejaculate, and is connected to the urethra, the muscles that line the perineum, and the sphincter muscle. If there’s an epicenter to male orgasm, then this must be it. Many men, though not all, find that when they’re aroused, prostate stimulation is intensely pleasurable; that’s because the nerve pathway from the brain to the penis runs through the rectum, and one large nerve bundle is located just beneath the prostate. Additionally, the root of the penis is more or less anchored at the prostate, so when you
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