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there’s a variety of clamps made specifically for big nipples, such as tweezer clamps.
    Little clamps can be purchased practically anywhere, from a fetish boutique to a stationery store. Clamps and clips made specifically for S/M play are best for sex. These have already been designed for sexual purposes, taking into consideration that they might be going onto sensitive areas or thin skin. Small clips are usually plastic with a spring that you pinch open, though you can also find metal versions. Even though a clip may be small, it can be pretty mean, because it concentrates the pain in one small area. Medium to large clips can be plastic or metal, even similar to the clips you’d use to keep a bag of potato chips fresh. Make sure that the ends of any metal clamps are padded or encased in rubber, and that any clips you use have no teeth.
    Wooden, plastic, and specialty metal clothespins fall into the “mean” category. Clothespins are intense. Be sure to always test each clothespin before you use it, as they have differing intensities, depending on how tight the spring is. You can lessen the pinch by forcing the spring open slightly with a pair of pliers. Nipple clamps often have a way to adjust the pressure, such as a slide ring on tweezers, or a tightening screw on alligator clamps. These are fun because you can vary the pressure on whatever body part you’ve clamped—for instance, you can increase pressure by tiny increments as arousal increases.

Hot Wax
    When dripped slowly and sensuously, hot wax can be the perfect combination of pain, suspense, peril, and pleasure for the receiver—plus, it’s lots of fun to be the one holding the candle and orchestrating the suspense. Use common sense when playing with candles; keep the flame away from skin and bedding, don’t set the candle near an open window or curtains, extinguish all flames before switching activities, and so on.
    Most kinky retailers will sell candles made especially for hot wax play. When selecting candles, use plain white, unscented varieties. Never use beeswax, which can cause serious burns. The burning sensation from wax play should last for a minute, then fade, and not leave actual burn marks that linger for more than a few minutes. The closer you hold the candle as you drip the wax, the hotter the burn; the higher up you hold the candle, the less hot the wax when it lands on the skin. Some companies make “massage candles” made of a scented soy wax that stays liquid once it’s melted, so you can drip mildly hot wax on
your lover, then give them a massage with the warm oil. These are wonderful toys for erotic massage play, though the oils will ruin safer sex gear. It should be noted that massage candles might make for the most intense hand jobs your guy’s ever had.

More Ouchy Fun
    You can also play with a prickly pinwheel (called a Wartenburg neuro wheel, for those in the know), a device doctors use on your body to determine nerve response. At home, you can use it everywhere except on the genitals, directly on the nipples, or on the anal opening. This sinister-looking and very painful medical instrument consists of an 8-inch handle, with a small stainless steel rolling wheel at one end that has sharp pinpricks. When the wheel is rolled lightly over skin, like a pizza wheel, it leaves a trail of sharp pain and a fiery sensation in its wake. Make sure you roll it lightly to avoid piercing the skin. And don’t share your pinwheel with other partners, unless you have access to hospital sterilization.
    Cock rings shouldn’t hurt when they’re on, but they can be made to, and you can find ones that are made for pain rather than constriction. Rings can be tightened, or layered one on top of the other to up the ante. Some cock rings have steel D-rings on them, allowing you to attach a fishing weight or a leash; fishing weights should be gently lowered with your hand, and leashes should never be