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your spouse may be raining negativity on your time together. What can you do?
Engineer support: Clean your desk or office. Ask your spouse to suspend the critique and say affirmative things for the next ninety days (after that it may become a habit!).
Tell a friend or two that youâre working on making some changes and ask them for support, via regular phone check-ins or e-mail reminders. Find a buddy with similar issues and work on your vision and goals together and meet regularly for mutual support.
Celebrate progress together for more reinforcement. That could be with a spouse or a close friend. Ask your children to help and encourage you, perhaps by cleaning common areas of the house so youâre not distracted. Itâs so much easier to change when youâve got a team cheering you on!
CREATE A VISION FOR CHANGE
Creating a clear vision of your ideal destination is an important early and ongoing step for your journey. Neuroscientists at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology have shown that when people reflect frequently on what their positive future selves will look like, they are more likely to make choices in their long-term interest rather than shortsighted ones.
Who do you want to be? What do you want your life to be like? Whatâs the best thing that will happen when youâre more organized? Letâs answer those questions.
The first step is to accurately understand where you are now. Self-awareness is a necessary precondition for change, and so your first stepis to explore whatâs working and whatâs not working when it comes to the state of your organization at home and work. Reflect on where you are right now, and look at it honestly. Get real but donât beat yourself up. Appreciate that the past is your friend and focus on how it helps you go from here.
To help you figure out where you are, here are a few questions that allow you to put a number to something that isnât easy to quantifyâwhere you are now and where you want to end.
Now you have a better sense of where you are, where you want to get to (your target) and how far that is from the current picture. From Dr. Hammernessâs chapter, youâve also begun to understand some of the factors behind organization (and lack thereof), as well as the things you need to aspire to in order to change that. Now itâs time to create a vision, one that inspires you and one that makes you feel hopeful and optimistic. As your coach, I want to help walk you through this âvision creationâ process, which is specific and clear and can be enormously effective. We do it through a series of questions that we call a Vision Grid.
Vision Grid
Vision Statement
A vision is a compelling statement of my ideal state when Iâm better organized. What would I look, feel and act like at my ideal?
I would feel a lot more in control than I do now, like Iâm on top of things and Iâm doing well.
Values & Motivators
What element(s) do I value most about this vision? Why is it really important to me to reach this vision? What good will come from my doing so?
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I want to contribute fully in my life, on the job and at home, and I canât do that now because I canât seem to get things together.
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I sometimes feel like my relationships and my employment are in jeopardy because of my inability to stay on top of things.
Gap
How large is the gap between where I am today and my vision? How long will it take?
Gap
Right now, at only about 30-40 percent of the time do I feel like Iâm on top of things in my life. I want to get it to 70-80 percent.
Strengths
What strengths can I draw upon to help me realize my vision? How can the lessons from my lifeâs successes be applied to reach my vision?
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Iâm willing to make a change and Iâm eager to learn; Iâm the sort of person that likes to learn and improve.
Challenges
What significant challenges do I anticipate having to deal with on the way to
Engineer support: Clean your desk or office. Ask your spouse to suspend the critique and say affirmative things for the next ninety days (after that it may become a habit!).
Tell a friend or two that youâre working on making some changes and ask them for support, via regular phone check-ins or e-mail reminders. Find a buddy with similar issues and work on your vision and goals together and meet regularly for mutual support.
Celebrate progress together for more reinforcement. That could be with a spouse or a close friend. Ask your children to help and encourage you, perhaps by cleaning common areas of the house so youâre not distracted. Itâs so much easier to change when youâve got a team cheering you on!
CREATE A VISION FOR CHANGE
Creating a clear vision of your ideal destination is an important early and ongoing step for your journey. Neuroscientists at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology have shown that when people reflect frequently on what their positive future selves will look like, they are more likely to make choices in their long-term interest rather than shortsighted ones.
Who do you want to be? What do you want your life to be like? Whatâs the best thing that will happen when youâre more organized? Letâs answer those questions.
The first step is to accurately understand where you are now. Self-awareness is a necessary precondition for change, and so your first stepis to explore whatâs working and whatâs not working when it comes to the state of your organization at home and work. Reflect on where you are right now, and look at it honestly. Get real but donât beat yourself up. Appreciate that the past is your friend and focus on how it helps you go from here.
To help you figure out where you are, here are a few questions that allow you to put a number to something that isnât easy to quantifyâwhere you are now and where you want to end.
Now you have a better sense of where you are, where you want to get to (your target) and how far that is from the current picture. From Dr. Hammernessâs chapter, youâve also begun to understand some of the factors behind organization (and lack thereof), as well as the things you need to aspire to in order to change that. Now itâs time to create a vision, one that inspires you and one that makes you feel hopeful and optimistic. As your coach, I want to help walk you through this âvision creationâ process, which is specific and clear and can be enormously effective. We do it through a series of questions that we call a Vision Grid.
Vision Grid
Vision Statement
A vision is a compelling statement of my ideal state when Iâm better organized. What would I look, feel and act like at my ideal?
I would feel a lot more in control than I do now, like Iâm on top of things and Iâm doing well.
Values & Motivators
What element(s) do I value most about this vision? Why is it really important to me to reach this vision? What good will come from my doing so?
Â
I want to contribute fully in my life, on the job and at home, and I canât do that now because I canât seem to get things together.
Â
I sometimes feel like my relationships and my employment are in jeopardy because of my inability to stay on top of things.
Gap
How large is the gap between where I am today and my vision? How long will it take?
Gap
Right now, at only about 30-40 percent of the time do I feel like Iâm on top of things in my life. I want to get it to 70-80 percent.
Strengths
What strengths can I draw upon to help me realize my vision? How can the lessons from my lifeâs successes be applied to reach my vision?
Â
Iâm willing to make a change and Iâm eager to learn; Iâm the sort of person that likes to learn and improve.
Challenges
What significant challenges do I anticipate having to deal with on the way to
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