characterized by wild mood swings. Based on their later interviews with law enforcement, it seemed they were wondering if they would ever be able to reclaim their daughter, a hope that was quickly dashed when they learned she had moved in with Matt.
Jodi had started dating Matt not long after she got to Medford, perhaps remembering how chivalrous he had been with his former girlfriend. But, given Matt’s connection to Bobby, it was beyond awkward. Jodi had to have known it would cause her former boyfriend emotional pain for her to hop in bed with his roommate, but she did so nevertheless. She found yet another job at Applebee’s and when she had enough money, she and Matt rented a one-bedroom apartment together. On occasion, she would run into Bobby. Such encounters with him were inevitable given she had chosen to move to his town. But Jodi went further at times, calling Bobby repeatedly, both at home and at his job, and even leaving mysterious things on his doorstep. Sources have said that Bobby even became quite fearful of her and they regarded him as a stalking victim. Bobby has chosen not to go on the record with the author, so the only account of his and Jodi’s relationship is Jodi’s alone, which should always be met with skepticism. Nonetheless, Jodi had begun her pattern of relationship obsession and of vine swinging from one boyfriend to another, bitterly disenchanted with one man as she grabbed on to the next. In Jodi’s world, it seemed a lover was either wonderful or horrible, with no in-between.
Matt and Jodi were together for a couple of years. Matt described her as gentle and caring, someone who would go into the bathtub to rescue a bug so it wouldn’t get washed down the drain. With Matt, Jodi continued her odyssey through the spiritual world she had begun at age eighteen. Despite being raised as a nondenominational Christian, Jodi, through one boyfriend or another had taken a curious interest in alternative religions—fundamentalist Christianity, Wicca, Buddhism, and Hinduism, to name four. Matt had a few books on witchcraft for the purpose of seeking spiritual alternatives. He had once even dabbled in it, but he had already moved into studying the mystical Eastern religions by the time Jodi started dating him. They explored the spiritual world together, taking “New Age”–type meditation seminars with roots in Hinduism or Buddhism, best described as a modern version of transcendentalism. Sometimes the seminars were quite a distance, as far away as Portland, four hours north of Medford, or San Francisco, six hours south.
Jodi believed she was in love with Matt, and for a time things between them seemed good. She wrote of feeling “blessed” to be with a man so kind and caring. “It is simply incredible, the fact that we are here building our dreams together,” Jodi wrote in her journal, dated February 6, 2000. “I can’t even imagine trying to pull something like this off with [Bobby]. In fact, I can’t even imagine having wanted to do such a thing. Living with him was a disastrous nightmare. Yet, putting up Christmas lights in February with [Matt] is so close to heaven-sent, that even now I still question what I ever did that was considered worthy enough for God to make this union between us a reality.
“. . . I guess I’m still not quite used to this feeling of loving a person, a beautiful soul, so completely and actually have that love returned, no, not just returned, but reciprocated at a level which actually matches mine, if not exceeds it. That is something I had always sought in [Bobby], but never found.”
But just three months later, in May 2000, Jodi sounded like a different person. Her emotional instability was apparent in her journals as she wrote about missing her times with Bobby. “He was my dream, he was my all, my everything,” she said in her entry dated May 11. She added, in a somewhat ominous reflection, “Why do I feel like we still have unfinished
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