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Authors: Doreen Virtue
Tags: Body; Mind & Spirit, New Thought
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of respect for someone or he or she is a celebrity, talk to him or her as if to a regular person. The Golden Rule of doing unto others as you would have them do unto you applies perfectly to conversations. You donât want anyone to make a fuss about you, and neither do other people (unless they are narcissists, and you donât want to be involved in that type of relationship anyway).
Complaining
Do you tend to complain a lot? If you do, you may be pushing people away. Those who complain come across as whining children, who see themselves as victims who have given away their power to others. You are neither a victim nor a little child. As an adult, you can make choices to change your life.
When you complain, are you looking for sympathy or solutions? The honest answer to this question can help reveal hidden fears of which you were unaware.
Complaining is an unconscious communication habit. Itâs a negative affirmation that draws to you the very thing youâre complaining about. It does nothing to help improve your situation. So, instead of complaining, get to work on changing your life for the better!
In conversation, be real and authentic. Speak in enough detail that other people know what youâre talking about. Donât start a conversation in the middle of a thought or assume that other people will psychically understand everything youâve been thinking about.
Breathe while youâre talking, and allow the other person to have space to reply. Be a good listener, and pay attention to what the other person is saying. Above all, though, listen to your own feelings as youâre having a conversation. Because the most important conversations that youâll ever have are with your true self and with God.
CHAPTER SIX
GETTING RID OF GUILT AND WORRY
T wo emotions that are commonly experienced by Earth Angels are guilt and worry, and in this chapter, weâll examine each in turn.
Guilt
Guilt occurs for several reasons:
Youâre engaging in an action that doesnât accord with your beliefs and morals.
You believe youâre not doing enough or havenât done enough.
You believe that you should make everyone happy. When someoneâs unhappy, you blame yourself. Earth Angels have parental guilt toward everything that needs caretaking on this planet, including people, animals, plants, bodies of water, and so forth.
You believe that youâre loved for what you do, instead of who you are. So, unless youâre doing âenoughâ or the âright thing,â you feel undeserving of love.
When you were in the spirit world as a celestial angel, you could help on a very wide scale. Yet, you were still limited in the aid you could offer because people have freewill choices. Not even God can intervene when someone has made a freewill choice to suffer, or perform a hurtful deed.
Now that youâre in a physical body, youâre even more restricted as to how many people you can affect at once. Physical bodies give you certain limitations that you didnât have when you were a celestial angel. This can create a low-level feeling of frustration, because deep down you remember being able to travel wherever you were needed instantly. You remember being able to defy physical laws and enact miraculous solutions. And while you still have access to all of your spiritual gifts, the dense physical plane slows everything down.
As a result of all these factors, you feel guiltyâwhen itâs not your fault! By taking on a physical body, youâve traded in one set of superpowers for another set. For example, people generally donât listen to their guardian angels. They either donât hear the voice of their angels, or they donât trust or believe the messages that they receive.
So you took on a human body because people do listen to other people. Youâre still a messenger for God, except now as a human you can be louder and easier to understand.
So we Earth
Complaining
Do you tend to complain a lot? If you do, you may be pushing people away. Those who complain come across as whining children, who see themselves as victims who have given away their power to others. You are neither a victim nor a little child. As an adult, you can make choices to change your life.
When you complain, are you looking for sympathy or solutions? The honest answer to this question can help reveal hidden fears of which you were unaware.
Complaining is an unconscious communication habit. Itâs a negative affirmation that draws to you the very thing youâre complaining about. It does nothing to help improve your situation. So, instead of complaining, get to work on changing your life for the better!
In conversation, be real and authentic. Speak in enough detail that other people know what youâre talking about. Donât start a conversation in the middle of a thought or assume that other people will psychically understand everything youâve been thinking about.
Breathe while youâre talking, and allow the other person to have space to reply. Be a good listener, and pay attention to what the other person is saying. Above all, though, listen to your own feelings as youâre having a conversation. Because the most important conversations that youâll ever have are with your true self and with God.
CHAPTER SIX
GETTING RID OF GUILT AND WORRY
T wo emotions that are commonly experienced by Earth Angels are guilt and worry, and in this chapter, weâll examine each in turn.
Guilt
Guilt occurs for several reasons:
Youâre engaging in an action that doesnât accord with your beliefs and morals.
You believe youâre not doing enough or havenât done enough.
You believe that you should make everyone happy. When someoneâs unhappy, you blame yourself. Earth Angels have parental guilt toward everything that needs caretaking on this planet, including people, animals, plants, bodies of water, and so forth.
You believe that youâre loved for what you do, instead of who you are. So, unless youâre doing âenoughâ or the âright thing,â you feel undeserving of love.
When you were in the spirit world as a celestial angel, you could help on a very wide scale. Yet, you were still limited in the aid you could offer because people have freewill choices. Not even God can intervene when someone has made a freewill choice to suffer, or perform a hurtful deed.
Now that youâre in a physical body, youâre even more restricted as to how many people you can affect at once. Physical bodies give you certain limitations that you didnât have when you were a celestial angel. This can create a low-level feeling of frustration, because deep down you remember being able to travel wherever you were needed instantly. You remember being able to defy physical laws and enact miraculous solutions. And while you still have access to all of your spiritual gifts, the dense physical plane slows everything down.
As a result of all these factors, you feel guiltyâwhen itâs not your fault! By taking on a physical body, youâve traded in one set of superpowers for another set. For example, people generally donât listen to their guardian angels. They either donât hear the voice of their angels, or they donât trust or believe the messages that they receive.
So you took on a human body because people do listen to other people. Youâre still a messenger for God, except now as a human you can be louder and easier to understand.
So we Earth
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