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Authors: Doreen Virtue
Tags: Body; Mind & Spirit, New Thought
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desire always occurs. What you worry about tends to happen. Itâs an extremely low-vibrational energy that causes tension in your face, body, and mind.
Worry pushes away other people, who are consciously or unconsciously repelled by the low energy of this emotion. So, worrying can leave you feeling lonely and afraid at a time when you need support. In addition, by obsessively worrying about something, youâll tend to manifest that very thing in a self-fulfilling prophecy.
So instead of helping you control the future, worry actually brings about everything you donât want. Itâs probably one of the worst defense mechanisms that you can adopt.
Worry can be an inherited habit. If you saw your parents worrying a lot, you may have adopted this behavior as a normal part of life. Sometimes parents feel that this is a requirement of love. Some parents even tell their children: âI only worry about you because I love you.â And then the child grows up confusing worry with love.
Of course itâs normal to be worried about our children! But when we realize that this emotion helps nothing and can often bring about negative results, we become more motivated to turn this around.
Worry can become an addictive habit as well. (Addictions are obsessive and compulsive behaviors that create temporary relief and happiness, followed by long-term pain.) Worry can briefly give you the feeling that youâll be able to master and control the situation, so it becomes your go-to coping habit. In addition to the behavioral addiction to this emotion, excessive worry can also lead to substance addictions that you turn to in an attempt to calm yourself down.
People who worry a great deal have a sense of doom-and-gloom about their future. They expect the worst, often as a way of avoiding being surprised or disappointed if the worst in fact occurs. These are often people who have had challenging and harsh lives, and all theyâve known is pain and betrayal in their relationships. So itâs no wonder that they worry that more pain will come their way.
Chronic worry can suppress your immune system, and you might also experience symptoms of panic attacks and muscular tension. Medical studies show that chronic worriers are more prone to cardiovascular disease and other illness.
The first thing to know is that you can make a better future for yourself without having to resort to worry. So before you start worrying about worrying, letâs talk about some real options for you:
1. Avoid stimulants in food and beverages. Coffee, tea, colas, chocolate, sugar, and other stimulants can make your body nervous and tense, and your mind will attribute this tension to anxiety.
2. Exercise. Blowing off steam through cardiovascular exercise such as jogging, running, using an elliptical trainer, yoga, fast walking, swimming, bicycling, dancing, and so forth is a wonderful way to reduce or eliminate the worry habit.
3. Turn worries into prayers. Worries never help anything, but prayers always help everything. The next time youâre fretting about something, frame your concern into a complete sentence. Either write the worry down on paper, type it on your computer, or say the complete sentence out loud. By facing your worries, you defuse their power over you. Worries, left inside and unconscious, are what create the low-level rumblings of anxiety in the background of your mind and emotions. Next, put the words God, please help me with this . . . in front of the worry. You have now turned your worry into a prayer.
As you know, God and the angels can only help you if you give them permission. They respect your freewill choices, and will only intervene if you ask. So by turning worries into prayers, you have just allowed heaven to support you with miraculous solutions.
Dark Night of the Soul
The dark night of the soul occurs when you confront your innermost fears and feel them completely and deeply. For most people, this means
Worry pushes away other people, who are consciously or unconsciously repelled by the low energy of this emotion. So, worrying can leave you feeling lonely and afraid at a time when you need support. In addition, by obsessively worrying about something, youâll tend to manifest that very thing in a self-fulfilling prophecy.
So instead of helping you control the future, worry actually brings about everything you donât want. Itâs probably one of the worst defense mechanisms that you can adopt.
Worry can be an inherited habit. If you saw your parents worrying a lot, you may have adopted this behavior as a normal part of life. Sometimes parents feel that this is a requirement of love. Some parents even tell their children: âI only worry about you because I love you.â And then the child grows up confusing worry with love.
Of course itâs normal to be worried about our children! But when we realize that this emotion helps nothing and can often bring about negative results, we become more motivated to turn this around.
Worry can become an addictive habit as well. (Addictions are obsessive and compulsive behaviors that create temporary relief and happiness, followed by long-term pain.) Worry can briefly give you the feeling that youâll be able to master and control the situation, so it becomes your go-to coping habit. In addition to the behavioral addiction to this emotion, excessive worry can also lead to substance addictions that you turn to in an attempt to calm yourself down.
People who worry a great deal have a sense of doom-and-gloom about their future. They expect the worst, often as a way of avoiding being surprised or disappointed if the worst in fact occurs. These are often people who have had challenging and harsh lives, and all theyâve known is pain and betrayal in their relationships. So itâs no wonder that they worry that more pain will come their way.
Chronic worry can suppress your immune system, and you might also experience symptoms of panic attacks and muscular tension. Medical studies show that chronic worriers are more prone to cardiovascular disease and other illness.
The first thing to know is that you can make a better future for yourself without having to resort to worry. So before you start worrying about worrying, letâs talk about some real options for you:
1. Avoid stimulants in food and beverages. Coffee, tea, colas, chocolate, sugar, and other stimulants can make your body nervous and tense, and your mind will attribute this tension to anxiety.
2. Exercise. Blowing off steam through cardiovascular exercise such as jogging, running, using an elliptical trainer, yoga, fast walking, swimming, bicycling, dancing, and so forth is a wonderful way to reduce or eliminate the worry habit.
3. Turn worries into prayers. Worries never help anything, but prayers always help everything. The next time youâre fretting about something, frame your concern into a complete sentence. Either write the worry down on paper, type it on your computer, or say the complete sentence out loud. By facing your worries, you defuse their power over you. Worries, left inside and unconscious, are what create the low-level rumblings of anxiety in the background of your mind and emotions. Next, put the words God, please help me with this . . . in front of the worry. You have now turned your worry into a prayer.
As you know, God and the angels can only help you if you give them permission. They respect your freewill choices, and will only intervene if you ask. So by turning worries into prayers, you have just allowed heaven to support you with miraculous solutions.
Dark Night of the Soul
The dark night of the soul occurs when you confront your innermost fears and feel them completely and deeply. For most people, this means
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