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Angels need to let go of guilt about not having easy access to our celestial spiritual gifts.

    Some guilt occurs when you do something that you believe is wrong. For instance, if you believe that cigarette smoking is harmful and low-vibrational, and you still smoke, you’re betraying yourself and the result will be guilt. Same thing if you believe it’s wrong to eat junk food, get drunk, have an affair, cheat on an exam . . . and yet you do these things anyway. As long as you’re engaged in behaviors you feel bad about, guilt will be the natural consequence.
    Guilt is a very low-vibrational energy. The angels say that guilt clips the wings of lightworkers. It makes us less effective as healers and manifestors.
    So, if you’re engaging in behaviors you don’t feel good about, there are two ways to handle this:
    1. Stop doing the behavior! This is likely the healthiest route to take. Admittedly, it’s not the easiest path, but that’s why following this option makes you stronger and raises your self-esteem.
    2. Change what you believe about the behavior! Guilt is more toxic than any behavior you can engage in. So if you’re going to continue with it, it’s essential that you let go of the guilt surrounding it. Meditate, pray, do research, talk to trusted people, and take other healthy steps to realign your beliefs about the behavior so that you truly can engage in it guilt-free.
    Everyone Has Free Will
    As we’ve discussed, a lot of guilt occurs because other people are unhappy and we blame ourselves for being unable to fix them. This is where we have to remember “freewill choices.” We naturally assume that everyone wants to be happy. This is because we know that happiness is the highest vibration, and one that’s healing and healthy. So why wouldn’t everyone want to be happy?
    In spiritual truth, we were all created equally happy, because we were made in the image and likeness of God, Who’s pure bliss, joy, and happiness. So deep down, we already are happy in our souls!
    But in this 3-D physical world of duality and polarities, there are opposing forces to everything. So the opposite of happiness would be depression. Some people’s lives are dedicated to experiencing duality opposites, and they go to dark extremes in order to push their ability to feel. There are some people who don’t feel alive unless they feel depressed. And one could argue that you’re in that category, too! After all, if you’re not allowing yourself to be happy, just because someone else is unhappy, aren’t you also contributing to unhappiness in the world?
    Wanting everyone to be happy ultimately is very controlling. You’re making the decision for others what emotional state they should be in. And then you might be pressuring them to follow your advice so that they can feel happy. That’s really rude and, ultimately, borders on playing God.
    Everyone makes their own choices, and while you can be a very positive influence and role model for others, in the end it’s up to them to choose whether to be happy or not. Love means respecting someone’s choices for themselves.
    Of course, if a loved one goes into clinical depression, you’d definitely want to intervene and seek professional help. Depression can lead to serious health consequences and even suicide.
    But for an average amount of sadness, give people space to make up their own minds if that’s how they want to live. This will make your life a whole lot easier. You don’t have to be in charge anymore, which is a very freeing realization! And if you don’t enjoy being with someone who chooses to be chronically unhappy, know that you don’t have to spend time with him or her!
    Worry
    Worry arises when you try to control the future by figuring out what bad things might happen so that you can prevent them.
    The trouble with worry as a control device is that the opposite of what you