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Authors: Violet Blue
Tags: Psychology, Reference, Self-Help, Health & Fitness, Sexual Instruction, Sexuality, Personal & Practical Guides, Human Sexuality, Women's Health
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soap) that actually does more harm than good. It causes severe irritation, leaving abrasions on the cervix (you can cross your legs and wail with me if you like). As you can guess, this undermines its main function, which is to prevent the transmission of HIV—in fact, some studies indicate that using nonoxynol-9 may actually increase your chances of contracting HIV, since those abrasions provide an excellent route into your bloodstream. Plus, nonoxynol-9 tastes nasty and numbs your tongue. Skip it.
Air Embolism
Some lovers might playfully blow a puff of air into the vaginal canal, not realizing that this is dangerous and can even be deadly. Teasing her with hot breaths on the outside of the vulva can be a sweet seduction, but a burst of air from your mouth or an aerosol can (such as a can of whipped cream) can cause an air embolism, the entrance of small air bubbles into the bloodstream. This can cause death, and is especially dangerous for pregnant and menstruating women.
Episiotomy
Women who have experienced childbirth may have undergone an episiotomy. In this routine procedure performed when a woman is giving birth, the perineum, perineal sponge, clitoral muscle, and vaginal floor are cut to facilitate the passage of the bundle of joy. Some women find episiotomy decreases their sexual sensation. If you are approaching childbirth, talk with your doctor about your concerns, or consider investigating natural childbirth with a midwife. If you have decreased sensation and believe it is related to an episiotomy, don’t fret; with knowledge, practice, and a sense of adventure, you can expand your capacity for orgasm in many ways. Follow the exercises and instructions in chapter 2, “How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Getting Head,” for deepening and strengthening orgasm, such as Kegels, and try masturbating frequently. See chapter 11, “Sex Resources,” recommendations on books and videos that explore female sexuality and orgasm.
When I had my first, they gave me an episiotomy, and for a long time oral sex was the only thing that felt good enough to make me come.
The Eroticism of Safer Sex
For some of us, the snap of the glove, the unfurling of a dental dam, or the tearing open of the condom package means one delicious thing: we are about to have sex. While others hem and haw about the extra steps that safer-sex gear requires, or the hassle, or the lessening of sensation, we smell the latex and know we are about to “get done”—and get done right . It means not only that our partner is considerate and cares about our health enough to take the lead but also that we can relax and anticipate good sex, because we know we are in the hands of someone who knows a thing or two about sex. I don’t know about you, but when the gloves go on I think of a smooth and slippery hand, and I purr. Especially if they’re put on with a devious smile. And when that dam is dangled knowingly before my eyes, my sexy partner is telling me there is no escape from pleasure now—and I melt.
Introducing safer-sex gear into your erotic repertoire may seem awkward or even embarrassing at first, but you’ll quickly overcome these feelings by spending a little time experimenting with the new accessories. Buy some condoms, dental dams, gloves, and finger cots, and examine them when you get home. Open the packages, keeping in mind that they will be used only in this instance (you should throw them out when you’re through). Touch them, feel the surface texture, pull and tug on them. Bring the items to your face and lips: become familiar with them by smelling and tasting them. Try on a glove, a finger cot. Lubricate one side of a dental dam, place the lubed side on the palm of your hand, and give it a few test licks, varying the sensation to get an idea of what’s in store for your lover. Most of all, begin to put your safer-sex gear in the same mental category as your sex toys—because that’s what
Air Embolism
Some lovers might playfully blow a puff of air into the vaginal canal, not realizing that this is dangerous and can even be deadly. Teasing her with hot breaths on the outside of the vulva can be a sweet seduction, but a burst of air from your mouth or an aerosol can (such as a can of whipped cream) can cause an air embolism, the entrance of small air bubbles into the bloodstream. This can cause death, and is especially dangerous for pregnant and menstruating women.
Episiotomy
Women who have experienced childbirth may have undergone an episiotomy. In this routine procedure performed when a woman is giving birth, the perineum, perineal sponge, clitoral muscle, and vaginal floor are cut to facilitate the passage of the bundle of joy. Some women find episiotomy decreases their sexual sensation. If you are approaching childbirth, talk with your doctor about your concerns, or consider investigating natural childbirth with a midwife. If you have decreased sensation and believe it is related to an episiotomy, don’t fret; with knowledge, practice, and a sense of adventure, you can expand your capacity for orgasm in many ways. Follow the exercises and instructions in chapter 2, “How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Getting Head,” for deepening and strengthening orgasm, such as Kegels, and try masturbating frequently. See chapter 11, “Sex Resources,” recommendations on books and videos that explore female sexuality and orgasm.
When I had my first, they gave me an episiotomy, and for a long time oral sex was the only thing that felt good enough to make me come.
The Eroticism of Safer Sex
For some of us, the snap of the glove, the unfurling of a dental dam, or the tearing open of the condom package means one delicious thing: we are about to have sex. While others hem and haw about the extra steps that safer-sex gear requires, or the hassle, or the lessening of sensation, we smell the latex and know we are about to “get done”—and get done right . It means not only that our partner is considerate and cares about our health enough to take the lead but also that we can relax and anticipate good sex, because we know we are in the hands of someone who knows a thing or two about sex. I don’t know about you, but when the gloves go on I think of a smooth and slippery hand, and I purr. Especially if they’re put on with a devious smile. And when that dam is dangled knowingly before my eyes, my sexy partner is telling me there is no escape from pleasure now—and I melt.
Introducing safer-sex gear into your erotic repertoire may seem awkward or even embarrassing at first, but you’ll quickly overcome these feelings by spending a little time experimenting with the new accessories. Buy some condoms, dental dams, gloves, and finger cots, and examine them when you get home. Open the packages, keeping in mind that they will be used only in this instance (you should throw them out when you’re through). Touch them, feel the surface texture, pull and tug on them. Bring the items to your face and lips: become familiar with them by smelling and tasting them. Try on a glove, a finger cot. Lubricate one side of a dental dam, place the lubed side on the palm of your hand, and give it a few test licks, varying the sensation to get an idea of what’s in store for your lover. Most of all, begin to put your safer-sex gear in the same mental category as your sex toys—because that’s what
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