looking for the
right
answers. However, to be fair, it is not only female advice you would be wise to avoid; I would recommend that you avoid all conventional advice as well.
Conventional Advice
All the
unnatural
ideas about how males ought to pursue females that we learn through our socialization are taken for granted, assumed to be true, reinforced, and passed on through conventional dating advice. Mainstream advice will in general simply facilitate and further traditional social conditioning, since that is what everyone is used to and what makes sense in their minds. There are also hidden agendas within some advice, such as selling unnecessary products. Take for instance, the whole idea of “metrosexual men,” males who care deeply about their looks and use makeup like women do. This is just a new way of various industries to sell existing products to a new market. The idea is to target males who already have low confidence or to create even more insecure males who will empty their pockets in an effort to feel better and good enough for women. It is a sad sight to see females encourage it, and even sadder to see males embrace it, but it is hardly surprising or unsound from a business perspective.
The biggest effect that this traditional socialization has on males, however, is that it causes them to be indirect with women, which is why almost all males try using an excuse to start up a conversation: a lighter, a dog, a friend, offering drinks, pretending to be lost, or pretending not to know what time it is. This is a natural consequence for a male who believes that females do not want sex or that females are more valuable and thus have to be earned.
Unfortunately, the more indirect a male is, the more feminine he appears, making him less attractive to women. This unspoken indirect theme can be found as part of all conventional ideas and popular advice in the realms of dating, which is why most males are also unsuccessful with women. When the underlying paradigm is feminine, the ideas and advice spawned by it will never be effective as long as females are attracted to masculine males.
Even though some advice is given with the best of intentions, people just do not understand the high-level issues that our socialization causes and that it
is
possible to circumvent the entire game if you address these preconceived ideas and change your mindset. The best way to get girls is actually not to play the game or to think outside the box; it is to avoid playing games and to step outside the box completely. It involves changing your mindset from being indirect with women to being direct, from being feminine to being masculine.
The mainstream dating advice and the traditions that go along with it focus on the wrong aspects, and often behaviors that do not really make any difference, such as what to do on dates, where to go, and what to wear — things to spend your money on, basically. This is what people tend to talk about as a result of their social conditioning to compensate for a male’s presumed lower value to females. However, what to spend your money on, or having money to spend, is the least of your worries if you want a woman who is so beautiful that she makes you nervous, or if you do not feel good enough for her and hence consider it necessary to spend
any
money on her. Those are issues that you have to deal with before anything else, and they are all about you, with solutions resolving inside you.
Although following conventional advice may be better than sitting at home on your couch, it is still far from good, and it isonly defended by people because they do not understand that there is a much better alternative.
The big problem is that when males believe they are not good enough as they are, they chase success and money, and their masculine confidence vanishes. If you believe females are attracted to something that you do not have, you will feel inadequate and lose your confidence. This is a self-fulfilling
right
answers. However, to be fair, it is not only female advice you would be wise to avoid; I would recommend that you avoid all conventional advice as well.
Conventional Advice
All the
unnatural
ideas about how males ought to pursue females that we learn through our socialization are taken for granted, assumed to be true, reinforced, and passed on through conventional dating advice. Mainstream advice will in general simply facilitate and further traditional social conditioning, since that is what everyone is used to and what makes sense in their minds. There are also hidden agendas within some advice, such as selling unnecessary products. Take for instance, the whole idea of “metrosexual men,” males who care deeply about their looks and use makeup like women do. This is just a new way of various industries to sell existing products to a new market. The idea is to target males who already have low confidence or to create even more insecure males who will empty their pockets in an effort to feel better and good enough for women. It is a sad sight to see females encourage it, and even sadder to see males embrace it, but it is hardly surprising or unsound from a business perspective.
The biggest effect that this traditional socialization has on males, however, is that it causes them to be indirect with women, which is why almost all males try using an excuse to start up a conversation: a lighter, a dog, a friend, offering drinks, pretending to be lost, or pretending not to know what time it is. This is a natural consequence for a male who believes that females do not want sex or that females are more valuable and thus have to be earned.
Unfortunately, the more indirect a male is, the more feminine he appears, making him less attractive to women. This unspoken indirect theme can be found as part of all conventional ideas and popular advice in the realms of dating, which is why most males are also unsuccessful with women. When the underlying paradigm is feminine, the ideas and advice spawned by it will never be effective as long as females are attracted to masculine males.
Even though some advice is given with the best of intentions, people just do not understand the high-level issues that our socialization causes and that it
is
possible to circumvent the entire game if you address these preconceived ideas and change your mindset. The best way to get girls is actually not to play the game or to think outside the box; it is to avoid playing games and to step outside the box completely. It involves changing your mindset from being indirect with women to being direct, from being feminine to being masculine.
The mainstream dating advice and the traditions that go along with it focus on the wrong aspects, and often behaviors that do not really make any difference, such as what to do on dates, where to go, and what to wear — things to spend your money on, basically. This is what people tend to talk about as a result of their social conditioning to compensate for a male’s presumed lower value to females. However, what to spend your money on, or having money to spend, is the least of your worries if you want a woman who is so beautiful that she makes you nervous, or if you do not feel good enough for her and hence consider it necessary to spend
any
money on her. Those are issues that you have to deal with before anything else, and they are all about you, with solutions resolving inside you.
Although following conventional advice may be better than sitting at home on your couch, it is still far from good, and it isonly defended by people because they do not understand that there is a much better alternative.
The big problem is that when males believe they are not good enough as they are, they chase success and money, and their masculine confidence vanishes. If you believe females are attracted to something that you do not have, you will feel inadequate and lose your confidence. This is a self-fulfilling
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