gung-ho commitment. Her pleasant kitchen looked as if it came directly out of a scene from Mad Men, replete with canary-colored retro appliances. The fridge sported an extra door, presumably child-sized, built into the front. âIsnât this weird? Itâs kind of a midget door or something. We want to redo it,â Donna trilled brightly. âBut itâs so darned expensive. Sure you donât want any tea?â
âDo you have any vodka?â I asked, only partly in jest.
Donna laughed. âOf course not, silly!â
Donna worked long hours in communications for an international aid organization that helps families in Africa. âWe should have two people to do my job, but of course itâs a nonprofit so they just work you to the bone. But itâs very rewarding.â
When Donna and her husband married, they agreed that he would cook and do dishes and she would do all the laundry. âBut now I realize that I canât rely on my husband to cook, or that what he makes will be healthy,â she said. âHe goes back and forth about eating healthy, but when it comes down to it, he just eats what he wants. He says that heâll be more interested in it as I lose more weight, but right now heâs not much of a good sport.â
Although Donna dutifully attended Weight Watchers for months, sheâd lost only five of the fifty pounds she wanted to lose. She can cite the programâs âpointsâ 9 for anything. But she finds theyâre not helpful when eating out, and lately theyâve been eating outâa lot.
âMy husband and I fight to the death about this. He doesnât eat all day or all afternoon. So heâs supposed to be the cook in the family, but then by the time weâre driving home together, heâs starving. He stops and gets fast food or he wants to go out. Then he snacks all night. He thinks this is supposed to help him lose weight?â
She revealed that just before they got married two years ago, heâd lost ninety pounds. Since then, heâd gained it all back.
âI guess back then he had to find a girl to impress,â she said wryly. âOne reason that I want to learn to cook is because I can cut down on calories all day, but I when I get home from work, itâs like a freefor-all. I donât know how to cook; itâs not my element, so I am kind of at the mercy of whatever he wants to do.â
She recently learned sheâs allergic to soy, and has long had an unusual reaction to raw vegetables. In the first cupboard, we hit abandoned cans of Slim-Fast. âOh, right, I forgot about those,â she said sheepishly. âItâs got soy in it, so itâs going to have to go.â
From the next one, she pulled out boxes for a hamburger-based skillet casserole. âI grew up eating it, so I bought those when we were first married, but my husband hates it because he didnât grow up on it,â she said. âThese might even be expired. I donât know, does Hamburger Helper have an expiration date?â She examined the box. âNovember 2008. Funny, I wonder whatâs in it that could expire?â
In the same cupboard she found dehydrated mashed potatoes, boxes of Jell-O, and a block of Velveeta cheese. âThis I use for a dip when guests come over. You mix it with a can of chili.â She dug in and pulled out an assortment of spices, many of them duplicates. âOh, we have three or four of the same kinds of spices. When we find a recipe we buy all the ingredients, not realizing that we already have the same herb or spice until we get home.â
On a higher shelf, she had multiple bags full of flour, sugar, and other baking goods. âIâd like to think that I do a lot of baking, but I donât. I think most of the stuff in this cupboard we havenât touched in more than a year.â
She moved on. Condensed soup, cans of black olives, kits to make Mexican food,
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