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mean that
you are seeking a slave who has had vast prior sexual
experiences, or does that mean that you want someone without much sexual experience that you can train
from the ground up?
    • Service - So, someone with demonstrable service
background is important. You may find that it's hard to
take a doctor or lawyer and expect them to fit the role
of chef and serving wench. On the other hand...
    • BDSM Play - So, a masochist would be useful - a
pain slut?

    What AUTHORITY SYSTEM is involved?
    This is a Master Jack McGeorge question, and I love it.
    • What are the grounds for your authority? Did you
declare it, or earn it? What, in your past, demonstrates
that you can exert authority over another? Been a military officer? Been in business management? Made
a lot of money? Been an Eagle Scout? You may find
it easier to move into a Master's position if you exude
demonstrable authority. Failing that, you may have to
spend more time reinventing yourself - learning the
myriad skills described in this book that will result in
your ability to present yourself with authority and confidence.
    • How broad is your authority? Do you intend to
control your slave's finances? If so, are you willing to
support your slave financially? Do you control your
slave's access to his/her biological family? Again, this
touches on the question of how much you are willing
to spend to achieve the slave model you seek.
    • Do you distinguish between punishment and correction? For example, my slave will only be punished
for a violation of our contract - something extremely
unlikely. On the other hand, I am not above correcting
my slave for a variety of protocol violations.
    I write this with an important additional note: As slaves
generally work very hard to please their Masters, I recommend administering correction very sparingly, lest
your slave become overcritical of her/his own actions
and wary of your scrutiny. I also recommend that
you be particularly careful to distinguish between
correcting your slave's behavior, versus correcting your slave as a person. You want to love and
cherish the person, while correcting behavior.

    How do you deal with Reactance and Resistance?
    Sooner or later, you are going to encounter reactance and resistance from your slave. This is particularly true if you are living
together. You give an order; your slave reacts to the order. This
reaction can take the form of a look of defiance, a little expression of exasperation or disgust, a rolling of eyes, or a direct challenge that questions the order. This tends to be something that
many D/s and M/s couples go through, particularly those who are
living in a 24/7 M/s setting.
    Perhaps the most common low-level problem occurs when the
slave reacts with some vanilla-sounding reply such as: "Oh, sure.
I'll go get it." When this happens in my personal relationship
with my slave, I generally react by saying something like: "And
how would that reply be phrased if you were in protocol?" That's
generally enough to get my slave to recognize the lapse and to
restate the sentence as: "Sir, yes Sir! I'll go get it, Sir."
    But, stepping up the scale, the time will come when you issue
an order and the slave reacts to it in a way that you feel must be
addressed; that your failure to address the issue will degrade the
nature of the authority-exchange upon which the relationship is
based. In such a case, I recommend you consider what is called
a state change. Here, you stop whatever is going on at the time
and change both your physical position and your slave's physical position. Typically, I put my slave in Full Present position (on
both knees hands locked behind back) and allow the slave time
to reflect and to become more composed. This is a time for the
slave to refocus and discuss the underlying cause of the reactance. A Master with an open mind and open heart will learn a
great deal at this point - often about himself/herself, rather