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sure you each understand the other's "sorting" styles.
Equally, if not more importantly: Do you say "I love you"
in a way that your partner can "get it?" (Although I've
already mentioned it, see: Chapman, Gary D. The Five
Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment
to Your Mate. Northfield Publishing; Reissue edition,
1995.)
    • Money/gifts: Some men feel that turning their paychecks over to their spouse, or buying gifts, is a demonstration of "I love you" and that they don't have to
say anything.
    • Sensory: Some people respond to verbal cues, some
to touch, some to visual cues. Work this out before
you take someone as your slave, or at least be able to
"translate" for them.
    • Performing services: Some people translate the
neatness/tidiness of the house as I love you.
    • Time and attention: Some people consider that
spending a lot of time with them translates to, I love
you.
    • Verbal: Some people respond most strongly to being
told that they are loved.
    10. Selective blindness: Learn to overlook certain faults.
Sometimes, little things that initially were attractive/cute
will become annoying over time. I'm not suggesting that you overlook character flaws such as criminal activity or
dishonesty; you can't build a relationship with someone
once serious character flaws are revealed. But, I am
suggesting that in the larger scope of your lives together,
there may be certain annoyances that may be better left
alone.

    11. Amicability: Be able to laugh at yourself; have lots of
friends. This usually indicates friendliness, flexibility and
openness. Good attributes in a mate. You will appreciate
these traits in a slave and your slave will appreciate these
traits in you.
    Some New-Relationship Distinctions
    What ROLE do you want to play in this relationship?
    • Boyfriend/girlfriend?
    0 Master/Mistress; Dom/Domme; Daddy or Top?
    • submissive/boy/boi/girl or slave?
    Related to this - are you interested in the ROLE, or in the
PERSON, or both? What if the role doesn't work out? Remember
the story I related a few pages back... I had started an M/s relationship with a woman that didn't work out, so we transformed
it into an Uncle/niece role-play, and it worked just fine. So, are
you flexible?
    And, dare I ask: what if you are a switch?? What if you are
BOTH switches? Now what role? Are you going to be Master
some of the time and role-play submissive to your own slave?
Are you firm enough in your Mastery to be willing to wear your
slave's collar?
    Have you ever considered playing more than one role at a
time?
    In large Households, Master can have a slave with whom he has
sex, a slave only for service, and a puppy for a pet. Then, again, you may keep a boy/boi around who needs nurturing growth. As
you earn respect within the Leather Tribe (the term many Leather
folk use to describe their subculture), you might find that you are
approached to Master one or more people who are seen less frequently than the household slaves. There are so many roles that
one can play within the overall M/s dynamic, that I can't really do
that topic justice. This is a world where you can stretch yourself.
You can be different people to different people. You can express
yourself differently as a function of your different relationships.

    Within the M/s structure, what ACTIVITIES are you likely to
pursue?
    I know, you want it all. And, that is fine; it's just that you probably
want more of one thing than another. The clearer you can be
about what you want, the more likely you are to be able to find
that mix in a person.
    • Vanilla - So, you might want a companion to attend
business functions and family events with you. Does
that mean that you want a slave for whom SM play is a
minor part of the sought-after relationship? Does this
point to a relationship almost devoid of formal protocols?
    • Sex - So, you might want someone really good at it
that enjoys it the way you offer it. Does that