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"soft vision." This means that I allowed everything in through my eyes, a receptive quality. In normal vision we are looking from in to out, but you can consciously switch this phenomenon and try looking from out to in as though the world is looking at you through your own eyes. Like windows, they are simply here and open, receiving. The rays of sunlight shine through the window and into the room. The world penetrates you through your eyes and into your body. You allow everything in your vision to come into you through your eyes, and they become receptive, soft and inviting. When your eyes meet those of your lover, when you look at each other softly and lovingly, you are allowing yourself to be seen. This contact, the awareness of the immediate, brings you quickly into the present moment, and you are here, making love with your partner, rooted in the experience.
There is a simple way to practice this on your own. Go to a park and look at a tree. Don't just glance at it, really look. Appreciate the leaves, the green, the aliveness. Now close your eyes and relax for a while. When you open them again, imagine that you are no longer looking at the tree but the tree is looking at you, and invite it into you, through your eyes. See how deeply you can allow the green livingness to enter you. Absorb it into the cells of your body. Then try it with the open blue sky, a puffy cloud, a glorious sunset. Allow yourself to be seen and penetrated by nature. Notice how this practice intensifies your awareness, dissolves your boundaries, increases your sense of connectedness to the rest of the world.
Now, with enough light in the room to see, look at your lover's eyes softly. Choose the eye with which you feel the most natural and at ease. Allow yourself to "be" and be seen. Receive the energy through your eyes, taking it into your body. Invite your lover into yourself, through the eyes. In fact you are receiving the backflow of your own energy, and when this energy is inverted it falls back on the heart, filling and expanding it. It also resonates in the third eye. Now spend time with the other eye. Notice the different qualities in the right and left eyes, the varying colors and configurations. Which eye challenges you more? Which one is softer? Which one awakens the sexual response in you? Stay with each eye for a while and learn to feel comfortable with both of them. Don't flicker back and forth rapidly from one eye to the other. This can be disconcerting for your lover. It can happen if either of you is nervous, so help each other to relax, perhaps by stroking or caressing. To be unsure at this stage is very natural. Do what you can to release any feelings of pressure. Give each other a chance to close your eyes peacefully, and just breathe deeply for a while.
It is important not to stare at the other, since this creates a sense of strangeness, of separation, not one of closeness or contact. The idea is not to scrutinize someone, but rather to allow the other in, and let yourself to be seen. When you stare, you have no presence behind your eyes; you are merely using your will. Blink, be natural, be personal. Don't work too hard thinking you have to keep your eyes open at all times. You may even find it impractical to keep your eyes open when the body positions are such that your eyes are not in easy range of those of your lover.
Close your eyes if you need to
As a general guideline, make eye contact when you can and when you can't, don't. Sometimes it is necessary to realign with yourself, with your center, by closing your eyes and feeling exactly what is happening inside the body. The point is not about keeping the eyes open; it is about using the eyes as a way of being here, more available and present. Feel free to close them at any time when you feel discomforted or sleepy, or when you need to be with yourself for a few minutes. When you do choose to close your eyes in this way, it is important to communicate this to your partner,
There is a simple way to practice this on your own. Go to a park and look at a tree. Don't just glance at it, really look. Appreciate the leaves, the green, the aliveness. Now close your eyes and relax for a while. When you open them again, imagine that you are no longer looking at the tree but the tree is looking at you, and invite it into you, through your eyes. See how deeply you can allow the green livingness to enter you. Absorb it into the cells of your body. Then try it with the open blue sky, a puffy cloud, a glorious sunset. Allow yourself to be seen and penetrated by nature. Notice how this practice intensifies your awareness, dissolves your boundaries, increases your sense of connectedness to the rest of the world.
Now, with enough light in the room to see, look at your lover's eyes softly. Choose the eye with which you feel the most natural and at ease. Allow yourself to "be" and be seen. Receive the energy through your eyes, taking it into your body. Invite your lover into yourself, through the eyes. In fact you are receiving the backflow of your own energy, and when this energy is inverted it falls back on the heart, filling and expanding it. It also resonates in the third eye. Now spend time with the other eye. Notice the different qualities in the right and left eyes, the varying colors and configurations. Which eye challenges you more? Which one is softer? Which one awakens the sexual response in you? Stay with each eye for a while and learn to feel comfortable with both of them. Don't flicker back and forth rapidly from one eye to the other. This can be disconcerting for your lover. It can happen if either of you is nervous, so help each other to relax, perhaps by stroking or caressing. To be unsure at this stage is very natural. Do what you can to release any feelings of pressure. Give each other a chance to close your eyes peacefully, and just breathe deeply for a while.
It is important not to stare at the other, since this creates a sense of strangeness, of separation, not one of closeness or contact. The idea is not to scrutinize someone, but rather to allow the other in, and let yourself to be seen. When you stare, you have no presence behind your eyes; you are merely using your will. Blink, be natural, be personal. Don't work too hard thinking you have to keep your eyes open at all times. You may even find it impractical to keep your eyes open when the body positions are such that your eyes are not in easy range of those of your lover.
Close your eyes if you need to
As a general guideline, make eye contact when you can and when you can't, don't. Sometimes it is necessary to realign with yourself, with your center, by closing your eyes and feeling exactly what is happening inside the body. The point is not about keeping the eyes open; it is about using the eyes as a way of being here, more available and present. Feel free to close them at any time when you feel discomforted or sleepy, or when you need to be with yourself for a few minutes. When you do choose to close your eyes in this way, it is important to communicate this to your partner,
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