others, like Somraj, scream bloody murder if you try it. Be careful, and start very gently. Back off if your partner doesn’t like it. Always let the receiver be the guide.
KAMA SUTRA SCRATCHING
The upper class Indians grew all their nails, or sometimes just one or two, extra long. They filed them to a sharp point just for giving pleasure. Be sure to try both long and short strokes with your fingernails.
PRACTICE: KAMA SUTRA EMBRACES
As we review the various Kama Sutra embraces, you’ll have a chance to experiment to discover what feels good and turns both giver and receiver on the most.
1. PREPARATIONS
Play soft, sensual music, and light some candles. Get together any props you’ll need: oil, feathers, towels, etc. Discuss the Partnering Questions. Decide who will begin as giver and receiver. Receiver, make as much skin available for contact as you’re comfortable with. The more nude you are, the better.
2. LIP KISSING
Experiment with kissing each other’s lips and mouths. Be creative. If you get a great idea, try it out, and let your partner try it on you.
3. BODY KISSING
Extend what you enjoyed on the lips to everywhere on the body. Don’t leave anything out. Relax into and relish the sensations when you’re receiving.
4. LICKING
Now try licking all the parts you kissed. Use the tip of the tongue, the flat part, and the sides, and try circling your tongue on the receiver’s skin.
5. SUCKING AND SQUEEZING
For another trip around the world, apply suction and pressure with your lips.
6. BITING
Experiment with biting by gently applying your teeth in all manner of places on your beloved’s beautiful body. At first, stop short of leaving any marks. If requested, you can gradually use more pressure, being careful not to break the skin.
7. SCRATCHING
Your hands are dying to get in on the act, we know. Using your nails, test out different strokes, long and short, hard and soft, fast and slow, to discover what the different parts of your beloved’s body prefers.
8. CLOSING
Bring your play to a close. Hug, hold, or lie next to each other. Feel the receiver’s subtle excitement and energy. Talk about how the experience was for each of you. What did you like giving and receiving the best and the least?
9. SWITCH
Switch roles right away, or take a little break for the receiver to assimilate the new sensations.
MORE JUICY IDEAS
Don’t worry. We haven’t forgotten about our goal — female ejaculation. In upcoming chapters, you’ll discover many wonderful ways to touch the vagina. But after the How to Touch Me practice, you should have a pretty good idea of how your woman likes her vagina approached. If not, try it again, and go deeper.
Because the vagina needs to feel safe before it can relax, the vast majority of women prefer a loving, slow approach. Women open naturally when they feel loved and desired for who they are.
ORAL STIMULATION
As we’ve mentioned, in spite of its detailed pro-sex guidance, the Kama Sutra preferred warm-up embraces leading quickly to intercourse rather than lengthy oral sex sessions.
Instead, we urge you to seek out what you like, what gets your motor running, and what makes your juices start flowing. Since arousal is essential to awaken the G-spot, we encourage you to experiment freely with oral sex. The more you play with it and like it, the more uninhibited you’ll find yourself.
Get creative, and extend the spirit of the Kama Sutra embraces to mouth, lip, and tongue embraces. Answer the questions below, and talk with your beloved about it. Then play, play, play!
EXERCISE: ORAL DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
The way I feel about giving oral sex is…
My vagina or penis enjoys being kissed, licked, or sucked this way…
Here’s how my clitoris enjoys being kissed, licked, sucked, or squeezed by a mouth…
Receiving oral sex can be a powerful turn-on for both men and women, so much so that it can lead to explosive orgasms that detract from building energy and
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