Read Online You Can Be Thin: The Ultimate Programme to End Dieting... Forever by Marisa Peer - Free Book Online Page A

who overeat are very unhappy about it. Sure they are happy while they are tasting the food in their mouths and feeling it go into their stomachs but that feeling doesn’t last long. The despair, the self loathing, the feeling of being trapped and the embarrassment last so much longer. Interestingly, one of the definitions of madness is doing the same thing over and over again while expecting a different result. You are ready to do and think differently and you will get a different result, permanently.
    So end the exercise by working out how long you feel good for after you have eaten badly and how long you will feel good for when you look the way you want to look. Now go ahead and really do the exercise so you can discover this for yourself. Imagine yourself in detail at your ideal weight, how you’d look and feel and how people would see you.

You Will Always Have Another Day to Eat Cake
    You will always have another day to eat cakes, chocolate and biscuits but you only have a certain amount of time to wear the things you want to wear and do the things you want to do. When you are ninety you can eat as many chocolates and crisps as you want to but it will be too late to wear tight jeans, fitted tops, shorts and anything else you are longing to fit into. It will also be too late to do many of the activities you might be putting off as you wait to get thinner – things like running, dancing, cycling and skiing. Putting some restrictions on yourself is not going to take anything away from you; it’s actually going to give you so much more back. You won’t feel deprived because you will be so focused on all the benefits coming your way.
    I am not virtuous. I still eat chocolate sometimes, I enjoy desserts occasionally, I like chips with salt and vinegar, and I enjoy warm bread on the odd occasion but I don’t see them as everyday foods. I used to find it really hard to resist chocolate and desserts, but what worked for me was reminding myself that I have all my life to eat them. I was in a restaurant several years ago when I was handed the dessert menu. It listed rhubarb crumble – my favourite. I was thinking along the lines of, ‘I have to order this, it’s my favourite’, when I stopped and told myself, ‘I have all my life to eat rhubarb crumble. I can buy it in a supermarket any time I choose and when I am eighty I can eat it every day. I don’t need to eat it today just because it’s on the menu.’ That really worked for me and was a sign that I was succeeding in taking control of how I ate.
    It is important to remind yourself that you will always have another day to eat. Many of my clients tell me that when they are confronted with cakes or sweets they eat them as if they will never come across them again. They are at a party with birthday cake, or a friend comes over with chocolate, or their partner brings home a pizza, and they say things to themselves like, ‘I have to eat this because it’s here, it’s free, it’s my favourite, etc.’
    What works is to tell yourself something different like, ‘I have all my life to eat a piece of pizza/cake/chocolate. This is not the only time I am going to be offered it. It’s not free, it will cost me a lot to eat it’. That thinking will also allow you to eat a little of something and then put it away. Knowing you can eat it whenever you choose to will stop you finishing everything in front of you just because it’s there.
    Pizza, cake, biscuits and chocolate are so cheap you will never be denied them and eating them as if you might be is crazy. It isn’t going to get you to your ideal weight either. You don’t need to eat biscuits just because they are given away free, you have the rest of your life to eat them. For years after I gave up eating sweets I would still take some if they were offered and put them in my bag then put them in a tin when I got home. In doing this I didn’t ever feel that I couldn’t have them or had to deny myself. So if I was in