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Authors: Felice Newman
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self-generating, you have tremendous power over the course of your sexuality throughout your life.
And just how do you do that? The book you’re holding is a good start. You’ll find plenty of suggestions and sources of additional information throughout the following chapters.
Suggested Web Link
THE CLITORIS.COM
www.the-clitoris.com
SOURCE OF QUOTE
Nancy Friday, interviewed on www.Power-Surge.com
chapter four
Orgasm
Orgasm is leaving my body and coming back anew .
SO, ORGASMS! You can have orgasm-directed sex by yourself or with a partner. If it’s all about getting off, that’s fine. You can also have sex without orgasm, and that’s fine, too. Most of us want that release of coming.
Many women are completely happy with our orgasmic capacity. Others want to come harder, quicker, longer, more easily, more often, more transcendently, or more meaningfully. You may wonder if you’re doing it “right”—and you may have had lovers who pressured you to respond differently than was natural for you.
You can enhance your capacity for orgasm—and you’ll find plenty of tips and techniques throughout this book to help you do just that. In fact, here’s the first one: You’re fine just the way you are. Even if you’ve never had an orgasm, you’re not defective in any way. Your experience of sexual pleasure is uniquely yours and no less valid than anyone else’s. Sex is not a competitive sport.
I would love to be able to have an orgasm more easily than I do. But when I have them they are incredibly intense.
Do you start coming as the first drop of moisture hits your panties? Perhaps you come ten seconds after the vibrator touches your clit, and you don’t feel complete until you’ve come nonstop for an hour. Good for you.
I orgasm and cum very easily. Just the brush of a woman’s wet tongue on my clitoris causes me to orgasm.
I can come every few minutes for several hours.
Does the term Pillow Princess ring a bell? Or Do-Me Queen ? So what if you don’t consider one or two (or three or four or five) orgasms sufficient? Even if every dyke you’ve ever loved has had to seek medical intervention for repetitive stress injury, there’s nothing wrong with you. How much pleasure is too much? It’s your call. (You can enjoy yourself indefinitely without stressing your partner—see below.)
This Is Taking Too Long
Perhaps your partners have complained that you’re a “hard come,” taking too long to reach orgasm. Too long for whom? If it takes 30 minutes of perfect clit stimulation, with just the right touch in just the right spot, for you to reach orgasm, you’re fine. Enjoy the attention.
If you’d like to come more quickly or reliably, however, here are six specific techniques you might try:
• Experiment with different positions or activities. Switch from oral sex to penetration or clitoral stimulation. Get on top. Find out what works for you.
• Make sure you’re really turned on before you even think of attempting to come. Human sexual response isn’t linear. Back off, do something else, and then come back to your arousal.
• Buy a vibrator. Many women find the strong, consistent stimulation of a vibrator to be the surefire aid to achieving orgasm.
• Touch yourself. Play with your clit while your girl’s going down on you, while she’s penetrating you, even while she’s touching you.
• Breathe into your pelvis, move your pelvis, don’t clench—let go.
• Fantasize. What are the images or scenarios that make you sizzle? It’s OK to fantasize during partner sex. You can invite your partner into your fantasy, too—tell her a story as she reaches for your clit.
If you come only by your own hand or vibrator, you’re no less a sexual partner. You can incorporate masturbation into partner sex in a way that will be incredibly hot for both you and your partner. You’ll find suggestions throughout the book for what to do when your lover’s tongue or hands—or even her
And just how do you do that? The book you’re holding is a good start. You’ll find plenty of suggestions and sources of additional information throughout the following chapters.
Suggested Web Link
THE CLITORIS.COM
www.the-clitoris.com
SOURCE OF QUOTE
Nancy Friday, interviewed on www.Power-Surge.com
chapter four
Orgasm
Orgasm is leaving my body and coming back anew .
SO, ORGASMS! You can have orgasm-directed sex by yourself or with a partner. If it’s all about getting off, that’s fine. You can also have sex without orgasm, and that’s fine, too. Most of us want that release of coming.
Many women are completely happy with our orgasmic capacity. Others want to come harder, quicker, longer, more easily, more often, more transcendently, or more meaningfully. You may wonder if you’re doing it “right”—and you may have had lovers who pressured you to respond differently than was natural for you.
You can enhance your capacity for orgasm—and you’ll find plenty of tips and techniques throughout this book to help you do just that. In fact, here’s the first one: You’re fine just the way you are. Even if you’ve never had an orgasm, you’re not defective in any way. Your experience of sexual pleasure is uniquely yours and no less valid than anyone else’s. Sex is not a competitive sport.
I would love to be able to have an orgasm more easily than I do. But when I have them they are incredibly intense.
Do you start coming as the first drop of moisture hits your panties? Perhaps you come ten seconds after the vibrator touches your clit, and you don’t feel complete until you’ve come nonstop for an hour. Good for you.
I orgasm and cum very easily. Just the brush of a woman’s wet tongue on my clitoris causes me to orgasm.
I can come every few minutes for several hours.
Does the term Pillow Princess ring a bell? Or Do-Me Queen ? So what if you don’t consider one or two (or three or four or five) orgasms sufficient? Even if every dyke you’ve ever loved has had to seek medical intervention for repetitive stress injury, there’s nothing wrong with you. How much pleasure is too much? It’s your call. (You can enjoy yourself indefinitely without stressing your partner—see below.)
This Is Taking Too Long
Perhaps your partners have complained that you’re a “hard come,” taking too long to reach orgasm. Too long for whom? If it takes 30 minutes of perfect clit stimulation, with just the right touch in just the right spot, for you to reach orgasm, you’re fine. Enjoy the attention.
If you’d like to come more quickly or reliably, however, here are six specific techniques you might try:
• Experiment with different positions or activities. Switch from oral sex to penetration or clitoral stimulation. Get on top. Find out what works for you.
• Make sure you’re really turned on before you even think of attempting to come. Human sexual response isn’t linear. Back off, do something else, and then come back to your arousal.
• Buy a vibrator. Many women find the strong, consistent stimulation of a vibrator to be the surefire aid to achieving orgasm.
• Touch yourself. Play with your clit while your girl’s going down on you, while she’s penetrating you, even while she’s touching you.
• Breathe into your pelvis, move your pelvis, don’t clench—let go.
• Fantasize. What are the images or scenarios that make you sizzle? It’s OK to fantasize during partner sex. You can invite your partner into your fantasy, too—tell her a story as she reaches for your clit.
If you come only by your own hand or vibrator, you’re no less a sexual partner. You can incorporate masturbation into partner sex in a way that will be incredibly hot for both you and your partner. You’ll find suggestions throughout the book for what to do when your lover’s tongue or hands—or even her
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