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pumping regatta in order to prove dick-worthiness. This can be really boring for both partners.
    To give you an idea of how much insecurity is involved in all this, consider the words of a 29-year-old man who is starting to question why he takes his penis so seriously:
“It’s like, I attack sex. I’m afraid of slowing it down. If I’m gonna be fucking, I’ll fuck like crazy, gotta have a huge dick and fuck like crazy to avoid dealing with whatever’s making me anxious. Women have always said to me, ‘God, you can’t get enough.’ But I think the reason I can’t get enough is that if I slow down, the fears start to crowd in on me. Does this woman really want to be with me? Is she going to leave? Is my cock good enough? It’s hard for me not to use sex as a seal of approval.” —From Harry Maurer’s Sex: An Oral History, Viking Press.
    Of course, there are plenty of women who have their own insecurities. Is getting breast implants or wearing a padded bra all that different from this guy’s need to have a big penis?
    The Diagnosis & Cure
    How do you distinguish a man who takes his penis too seriously from one who doesn’t?
    The man who doesn’t take his penis too seriously doesn’t flake out when it comes to doing the dishes. He may have various passions in life, often sports, music, business, gaming, or trying to fix things (sometimes successfully), but these usually help to center rather than isolate him. Sex with him is a natural extension of your friendship. It makes all the sense in the world.
    As for “curing” the kind of man who takes his penis too seriously, you can’t. Hard as you might try, no human being has ever changed just because someone else wanted him or her to. It’s something that has to come from within. Friends and lovers can sometimes help if they are willing to call the guy on his nonsense, but they can’t make the changes for him.
    Sexual Awareness: Hood Ornaments vs. Wet Triangles
    When it comes to sexual awareness, the penis is positioned like the hood ornament on a car. It’s difficult to ignore what your hood ornament is telling you when it’s making a tent in the front of your pants. Sometimes we guys aren’t even aware that we are sexually aroused until we feel ourselves starting to get hard.
    Women are not conditioned from early childhood to associate sexual arousal with specific body cues in the way that men are. While their genitals often swell and lubricate, no flags get waved. Most of the changes happen on the inside and can be chalked-up to a nice tingly sensation between their legs. Besides, “good” girls are often taught to ignore their body’s sexual cues.
    While the penis can be a reliable indicator of sexual excitement, it does have its share of false positives, and occasional negatives.
    How a Penis Gets Hard
    The penis has three long chambers inside of it. Two of the chambers are responsible for making it hard or rigid. They are called the corpus cavernosa. They run parallel to each other up the shaft of the penis. Think of a double-barrel shotgun, and that’s how they sit next to each other. These two chambers or cylinders are made of spongy material that are covered by a thin but extremely tough exterior. To get an erection, they fill up with blood. As a result, the blood pressure in an erect penis is way higher than the blood pressure in the rest of the body.
    The third chamber is made of a similar spongy tissue and it encircles the urethra, or the tube that you pee and ejaculate through. While this third tube expands during erection, it doesn’t get hard or rigid like the other two tubes. If it did, it would crimp shut the urethra and there’s no way a guy could ejaculate through it.
    This third column, which is called the corpus spongiosum, also forms the head of the penis. While the head of the penis expands or mushrooms during erection, it stays relatively soft.







 
    Unwanted Wood
“For some reason, out of nowhere, your penis starts to get