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Authors: Brett Mckay, Kate Mckay
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Facebook’s relationship status feature to break up with their girlfriend. If you are not man enough to look a woman in the eyes and tell her it’s over, you weren’t man enough to be in a relationship to begin with.
Take it easy on the applications. Don’t overload your profile with unnecessary applications such as Superpoke, Food Fight, etc. Also, be careful with the kind of applications you install on your profile. A gentleman avoids applications that demonstrate a lack of judgment ormaturity. That means no “Sex Position” or “Beer Wars” applications.
Join Facebook groups with discretion. The groups you choose to join, even as a joke, say a lot about you. Use discretion. Additionally, keep the number of groups you join to a minimum.
Don’t “friend” someone you don’t know or hardly know. Facebook has degraded the meaning of friend . A gentleman respects semantics and only includes people in his Facebook network that are truly his friends. Don’t be afraid to say no to random people who try to befriend you.
Your favorites should be just that. Listing your favorites means listing the things you like the best not every single thing you’ve ever listened to, seen or read. Having a huge list of favorites shows you don’t have enough taste to pick what things you like the best. Being ultra-inclusive doesn’t make you seem cultured … it makes you seem insecure.
Respond to people’s Facebook wall posts and messages. Respond within twenty-four hours. If you feeloverwhelmed with Facebook messages, let others know you prefer to be contacted by e-mail.
Chapter Two. The Friend
“My father always used to say that when you die, if you’ve got five real friends, you’ve had a great life.”
—Lee Iacocca
Friendships are an important part of a man’s life. Friends are those men you can count on when the chips are down. They’ll back you up even when the whole world is against you. Friends are those men who’ll buy you a beer when you lose a job or your lady dumps you. Sadly the mighty bonds of man friendship have been greatly eroded during our modern age.
The History of Man Friendships
Men who know no differently accept the current state of man friendships as inevitable. But a brief look at the history of male friendship shows otherwise and points the way toward recapturing the glory of brotherly bonds.
The Heroic Friendship
In ancient times, men viewed male friendship as the most fulfilling relationship a person could have. Friendships were seen as nobler than marital love with a woman because women were seen as inferior. Aristotle and other philosophers extolled the virtues of platonic relationships—a relationship of emotional connection without sexual intimacy. Platonic relationships, according to Aristotle, were the ideal.
During this period of time, the idea of the heroic friendship developed. The heroic friendship was a friendship between two men that was intense on an emotional and intellectual level. Heroic friends felt bound to protect one another from danger. Examples of heroic friendships exist in many ancient texts from the Bible (David and Jonathan) to ancient Greek writings (Achilles and Patroclus).
Male Friendships in Colonial and Nineteenth-Century America
Male friendships during the colonial period and nineteenth century were marked by an intense bond and filled with sympathy and sentimentality. Friendships between men, in many instances, had a similar intensity as romantic relationships between men and women. Essentially it was a continuation of the heroic friendship of the ancient world, coupled with the emphasis on emotion common to the Romantic Age. A fervent bond did not necessarily imply a sexual relationship; the idea that these ardent friendships in some way compromised their heterosexuality is largely a modern conception.
Men during this time freely used endearing language with each other in daily interaction and letters. And they weren’t afraid to get all
Take it easy on the applications. Don’t overload your profile with unnecessary applications such as Superpoke, Food Fight, etc. Also, be careful with the kind of applications you install on your profile. A gentleman avoids applications that demonstrate a lack of judgment ormaturity. That means no “Sex Position” or “Beer Wars” applications.
Join Facebook groups with discretion. The groups you choose to join, even as a joke, say a lot about you. Use discretion. Additionally, keep the number of groups you join to a minimum.
Don’t “friend” someone you don’t know or hardly know. Facebook has degraded the meaning of friend . A gentleman respects semantics and only includes people in his Facebook network that are truly his friends. Don’t be afraid to say no to random people who try to befriend you.
Your favorites should be just that. Listing your favorites means listing the things you like the best not every single thing you’ve ever listened to, seen or read. Having a huge list of favorites shows you don’t have enough taste to pick what things you like the best. Being ultra-inclusive doesn’t make you seem cultured … it makes you seem insecure.
Respond to people’s Facebook wall posts and messages. Respond within twenty-four hours. If you feeloverwhelmed with Facebook messages, let others know you prefer to be contacted by e-mail.
Chapter Two. The Friend
“My father always used to say that when you die, if you’ve got five real friends, you’ve had a great life.”
—Lee Iacocca
Friendships are an important part of a man’s life. Friends are those men you can count on when the chips are down. They’ll back you up even when the whole world is against you. Friends are those men who’ll buy you a beer when you lose a job or your lady dumps you. Sadly the mighty bonds of man friendship have been greatly eroded during our modern age.
The History of Man Friendships
Men who know no differently accept the current state of man friendships as inevitable. But a brief look at the history of male friendship shows otherwise and points the way toward recapturing the glory of brotherly bonds.
The Heroic Friendship
In ancient times, men viewed male friendship as the most fulfilling relationship a person could have. Friendships were seen as nobler than marital love with a woman because women were seen as inferior. Aristotle and other philosophers extolled the virtues of platonic relationships—a relationship of emotional connection without sexual intimacy. Platonic relationships, according to Aristotle, were the ideal.
During this period of time, the idea of the heroic friendship developed. The heroic friendship was a friendship between two men that was intense on an emotional and intellectual level. Heroic friends felt bound to protect one another from danger. Examples of heroic friendships exist in many ancient texts from the Bible (David and Jonathan) to ancient Greek writings (Achilles and Patroclus).
Male Friendships in Colonial and Nineteenth-Century America
Male friendships during the colonial period and nineteenth century were marked by an intense bond and filled with sympathy and sentimentality. Friendships between men, in many instances, had a similar intensity as romantic relationships between men and women. Essentially it was a continuation of the heroic friendship of the ancient world, coupled with the emphasis on emotion common to the Romantic Age. A fervent bond did not necessarily imply a sexual relationship; the idea that these ardent friendships in some way compromised their heterosexuality is largely a modern conception.
Men during this time freely used endearing language with each other in daily interaction and letters. And they weren’t afraid to get all
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