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Since he can’t reach your clitoris, you must take matters into your own hands—literally! Use your hand or a vibrator; small, pocket-size vibrators work much better than larger models for this position.
Wearable vibrators are vibrators with straps for hands-free fun; they also work well in this position.
If you like a lot of pressure on your clitoris, try placing a vibrator with a lot of surface area (like the Tuyo, the Cone, or Jasmine) underneath you—you can squeeze it between your legs and grind your vulva and clitoris against it as your partner penetrates you.
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YAB-YUM

    Yab-Yum is a classic Tantric sex position where one partner sits in the other partner’s lap and they face each other. Although it is usually taught and practiced as a position for vaginal penetration, it works very well for anal penetration, too. The man sits with his legs loosely crossed and the woman sits in his lap and wraps her legs around his waist and torso. He can use firm pillows under his thighs if he needs more support for his legs. If it’s not comfortable for him to keep his legs crossed, then he can put them out in front of him. If he needs back support, he can lean against the wall or headboard. As she gets into his lap, she can raise up slightly on her knees, and she should tip her pelvis forward in order to make her anus more accessible. He can hold the base of his penis to assist her, and she can slowly come down on it. This is meant to be a relaxing, meditative position, so once you’re in it, you shouldn’t feel any tension or strain. If you do, adjust yourselves so that you can comfortably sink into the position.

PROS
    In Yab-Yum, you can kiss, talk, or simply gaze into each other’s eyes. This is a deeply intimate position that fosters eye contact, communication, and lots of closeness. Each partner can easily reach the other’s head to stroke her face, kiss his neck, nibble on his ear, or run your fingers through her hair. Because she’s on top, she can control the depth and angle of penetration. It also works well for a man with a shorter penis or a woman who enjoys sitting all the way down on a man’s penis, because he can fully penetrate her. Yab-Yum is best for slow, sensual lovemaking and lends itself well to a subtle rocking motion rather than hard-and-fast thrusting. It’s a position that embodies a give-and-take approach to sex, where neither partner is doing the bulk of the work. As each partner moves his or her hips, they can establish a rhythmic, fluid motion until they are completely in sync.

CONS
    In Tantric sex, this position can be used to prolong intercourse or delay ejaculation because it facilitates a gentle rocking motion. Some men may find it difficult to maintain an erection without the benefit of constant friction from thrusting. Men may also find it hard to reach orgasm when sitting up. This can be a good position for women who can reach orgasm from indirect G-spot stimulation through anal penetration, but it’s not ideal for clitoral stimulation. It’s also not a suitable position if he has a long penis and she wants or needs shallower penetration because she may not be able to sit down all the way, putting too much strain on her knees and thighs.
CHANGE LOCATIONS!
THE CHAIRMAN
    Try getting into Yab-Yum on a chair, ottoman, sofa, or a pillow on the floor. A comfortable chair or couch can offer men needed back support. With a firmer surface beneath him and his legs down, a man may feel more solid in this position and have more freedom of movement and a little more ability to thrust gently. A man can hold onto his partner’s hips and move her body up and down on his penis. If the couple is on a wide enough chair, she can move her legs so that she straddles him but isn’t wrapped around his waist.
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Giving It Good
Hold the base of your penis as she sits down on you, to help make penetration easier.
With your hands around her hips, try rocking her forward and back.
With one hand