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SM community emerge. Such communities are also emerging in many other cities. Also, efforts are underway to link the SM groups in various areas into a national organization.
Gay-related parades, rallies, and demonstrations now often include an SM group. Organizations that refuse to include such a group are asked detailed, repeated questions regarding the refusal’s basis. The leather-clad people asking these questions do not feel inclined to take “no” for an answer.
Again, we see the beginnings of the emergence of a self-aware, organized group of people banded together based on their sexual preference. This movement is growing and getting stronger. Its implications are at least as strong as the gay movement.
Laws banning discrimination based on sexual orientation or sexual preference do not currently explicitly include SM people, and they should. I would have no problem with an SM person teaching in an elementary school, performing surgery, or serving in the military. Indeed, I happen to know that SM people have been doing all of those things, and many more, for quite some time.
I’m told that the National Organization for Women’s official position is that SM is inherently incompatible with women’s interests. Given that most of the SM women I know identify as feminists, this may be the next area in which we need to raise consciousness.
You would never have gotten me to believe that I would en joy that.
Five years ago, I would have considered the idea of an SM Freedom Day Parade absurd. Today, I’m not so sure. In five more years, I may help organize it.
Make no mistake about it. We feel tired of apologizing for and covering up our interest in SM. We feel tired of being considered sick. We feel tired ofbeing considered unacceptable. We are coming out. If you’re not ready for that, too bad! Your unreadiness is not our problem.
This form of sexuality has unusually strong economic implications. SM has been a cottage industry for some time. Women work as dominants, submissives, and switches. (So do a handful of men, who have an almost entirely gay clientele.) Those who do phone sex take dominant and submissive roles. People earn money by making, distributing, and selling SM equipment and clothing such as restraints, whips, clamps, corsets, boots and so on. (And books!)
Besides the costs of regular sex (for lotions, birth control measures, and so forth), SM-interested people purchase ropes, clamps, whips, leather gear, and many other items. It is common for a player to spend several hundred dollars on SM equipment. Outlays of several thousand dollars are not at all rare, especially if elaborate leather or rubber items are purchased. SM-oriented books, magazines, audiotapes, videotapes, and similar materials sell briskly.
In short, a large and growing demand for SM-related goods and services exists. Many adult bookstores now carry SM supplies, and stores exist in several cities that sell little else. Let’s put it this way: This is an area that about 10% to 30% of the population seems interested in, and each interested person may spend a few hundred dollars on equipment. The emergence of suppliers to meet such an enormous demand is inevitable.
As the SM community becomes larger and more organized, its political and economic power mounts. Pay attention, politicians and businesspeople!
By their fantasies ye shall know them.
Should You “Come Out” As Being Into SM?
This is a big decision, so think about it at length, then mull it over some, and then think about it a little longer. I have come out, but more for professional reasons than personal ones - and even then it was a decision that took me years to make.
Remember, we live in a time when SM is still widely misunderstood and unaccepted. Coming out to the wrong people, at the wrong time, or in the wrong way could cost you your job, your marriage, and much more.
I think that, as general rule, it’s best to keep your SM interest on a “need
Gay-related parades, rallies, and demonstrations now often include an SM group. Organizations that refuse to include such a group are asked detailed, repeated questions regarding the refusal’s basis. The leather-clad people asking these questions do not feel inclined to take “no” for an answer.
Again, we see the beginnings of the emergence of a self-aware, organized group of people banded together based on their sexual preference. This movement is growing and getting stronger. Its implications are at least as strong as the gay movement.
Laws banning discrimination based on sexual orientation or sexual preference do not currently explicitly include SM people, and they should. I would have no problem with an SM person teaching in an elementary school, performing surgery, or serving in the military. Indeed, I happen to know that SM people have been doing all of those things, and many more, for quite some time.
I’m told that the National Organization for Women’s official position is that SM is inherently incompatible with women’s interests. Given that most of the SM women I know identify as feminists, this may be the next area in which we need to raise consciousness.
You would never have gotten me to believe that I would en joy that.
Five years ago, I would have considered the idea of an SM Freedom Day Parade absurd. Today, I’m not so sure. In five more years, I may help organize it.
Make no mistake about it. We feel tired of apologizing for and covering up our interest in SM. We feel tired of being considered sick. We feel tired ofbeing considered unacceptable. We are coming out. If you’re not ready for that, too bad! Your unreadiness is not our problem.
This form of sexuality has unusually strong economic implications. SM has been a cottage industry for some time. Women work as dominants, submissives, and switches. (So do a handful of men, who have an almost entirely gay clientele.) Those who do phone sex take dominant and submissive roles. People earn money by making, distributing, and selling SM equipment and clothing such as restraints, whips, clamps, corsets, boots and so on. (And books!)
Besides the costs of regular sex (for lotions, birth control measures, and so forth), SM-interested people purchase ropes, clamps, whips, leather gear, and many other items. It is common for a player to spend several hundred dollars on SM equipment. Outlays of several thousand dollars are not at all rare, especially if elaborate leather or rubber items are purchased. SM-oriented books, magazines, audiotapes, videotapes, and similar materials sell briskly.
In short, a large and growing demand for SM-related goods and services exists. Many adult bookstores now carry SM supplies, and stores exist in several cities that sell little else. Let’s put it this way: This is an area that about 10% to 30% of the population seems interested in, and each interested person may spend a few hundred dollars on equipment. The emergence of suppliers to meet such an enormous demand is inevitable.
As the SM community becomes larger and more organized, its political and economic power mounts. Pay attention, politicians and businesspeople!
By their fantasies ye shall know them.
Should You “Come Out” As Being Into SM?
This is a big decision, so think about it at length, then mull it over some, and then think about it a little longer. I have come out, but more for professional reasons than personal ones - and even then it was a decision that took me years to make.
Remember, we live in a time when SM is still widely misunderstood and unaccepted. Coming out to the wrong people, at the wrong time, or in the wrong way could cost you your job, your marriage, and much more.
I think that, as general rule, it’s best to keep your SM interest on a “need
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