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pleasure purpose, too. If a woman caresses her lover’s prostate directly with her fingertip, she can drive him insane with delight—but only if that loving finger is permitted to reach knuckle-deep inside his anus—an act that’s been known to turn even the most macho man into a bowlful of quivering jelly.
    Right now, hold up your index finger where you can examine it closely. Does it really look all that scary?
    Cowboys Only! You Shall Overcome
    Question: Isn’t buttplay gay?
    Answer: It’s about as gay as a penis in a vagina!
    Here’s the honest truth: When buttplay is enjoyed by a woman with a man, that’s as hetero as it gets. It’s not a sexual preference—it’s a sexual pleasure.
    Today, as more women take up the reins of erotic play, anal stimulation has come into the sexual mainstream, with increasing numbers of heterosexual couples trying and enjoying it in the privacy of their own homes. Why? One reason might play out something like this:
    He: “Honey, can we, y’know, perhaps, uhhh, try some anal sex tonight?”
    She: “Sure dear. You first!”
    If turnabout is fair play, that could explain why sales of prostate stimulators and other buttplay toys among hetero couples are, forgive the pun, surging. Find out more in chapter 18.
    So how about you, cowboy? Are you ready to experience orgasms beyond your wildest imagination?
    Cowgirls Only!
    Ease Up A Butt. Then Take Charge!
    Sure, the first time touching his HE-spot can be awkward for you, too. Relax. You’ll find everything here to start you off on the right, er, finger!
    Talk up. Start by reading this chapter together, discussing and even laughing about it. Rather than focusing on the process, envision the results: off-the-Richter-scale orgasms and a higher level of intimacy and sexual maturity. If he’s still unwilling, that’s okay—don’t twist his arm. He may come around eventually.
    Study up. If there’s interest, try watching a sensual massage DVD together to see how the stars’ skilled hands caress the butt and inner thighs. Or slip in an erotic DVD that features a bit of anal play for even more probing ideas.
    Clean up. Shortly before your big romantic rendezvous, suggest he go to the bathroom to empty his bladder and bowel—or enjoy a warm enema—all followed by a hot shower. Better yet, jump in and soap him up yourself to be sure he hasn’t missed any essential spots.
    Shave up. Is he a bit too “furry” down there? Create yet another erotic adventure and shave his butt. His skin will become more sensitized, and even more welcoming for a gentle, probing tongue.
    Precautions & Preparations For HE-spot Play
    Wash. Wash. Wash. Rule of thumb: If it will come in contact with the anus, pre-wash it in hot water with antibacterial soap. This includes hands, sextoys and yourselves. Be sure to file down and smooth out any rough edges on sextoys, too.
    Smooth. Smooth. Smooth. File all your nails till they’re perfectly smooth, and remove all rings from your fingers. If your nails are long, wear latex gloves with a ball of cotton in each of the tips.
    Lube. Lube. Lube. Slather on plenty of sex lubricant, because his anus is naturally dry and delicate, and can easily tear from unlubricated friction. Use generous amounts of sex lube every time you engage in anal play—and never substitute it with quick-drying saliva.
    Slow. Slow. Slow. Always enter the anus slowwwly. Always exit the anus slowwwly. Never slide anything into the anus that does not have a flared base or extra-long handle to grip, or it can get sucked inside.
    Cover. Cover. Cover. To protect against unwanted bacteria-transfer, use a latex dam during tongue play—a thin sheet you place between the tongue and anus, which transfers only the erotic sensations. Or use a sheet of plastic wrap from the kitchen. For finger play, wear a latex glove or a single finger cover (finger cot). And unroll a fresh condom over any sextoy to keep it bacteria-free. Of course, you’ll also remember