always want to know who you’re dating.’ Some couples manage to go their own way, making a pledge of mutual infidelity, but I cannot help feeling that one of the partners must be enjoying it more than the other.
If you must have affaires, be discreet. The cardinal sin is to be found out. And when it’s all over and you’re feeling a louse and you want to clear your conscience, don’t indulge in tearful confessions to your husband and feel you’ve cleaned the slate. It will upset him quite unnecessarily.
DISCOVERY
If you do discover your husband is having an affaire with someone, and he doesn’t know you know, play it cool. It may blow over. Remember, ‘the robb’d that smiles steals something from the thief.’
If you find out, and your partner knows you know, the only solution is to raise hell, and insist that it stops immediately. Once you start condoning something like this, you’re lost. Usually the jolt of your finding out and minding so much is enough to make him give up the other person, in which case welcome him home like the prodigal son, and never never reproach him again.
People often have affaires as a bid for more attention from their partners and purposely leave clues so that their partners will find out and be jolted into loving them more. So if you discover your husband is having an affaire with someone, have a look at your own behaviour before you blame him to see if it’s you who’s at fault.
A FEW PRACTICAL SUGGESTIONS
If your wife seems like a bolter, put her on the same passport, then you won’t waste a fortune in air tickets getting her back.
If you suspect your partner is having an affaire with a particular person, go into howls of immoderate laughter every time that person’s name is mentioned. When they ask why you’re laughing, laugh some more and say no one takes that idiot seriously. Nothing douses passion quicker than ridicule. I really fancied a man once, until someone pointed out he looked like Dracula.
DETECTION
There are a number of indications that your partner is having an affaire with someone:
If your husband insists he’s been lunching at the local with the boys, and comes home reeking of garlic, gets out a packet of matches with the Mirabelle printed on it, and lights a king-size cigarette when he normally smokes Woodbines.
If he starts a pointless row at breakfast, so he can storm out of the house, and needn’t come back until late.
If he suddenly starts working late consistently and comes home smelling of scent.
If he looks happy on a Monday morning, and miserable on a Friday night.
If he suddenly starts having a bath in the morning.
If the distance between the ends of his tie is different in the morning from the evening.
If he keeps making ridiculous excuses to buy more cigarettes during the weekend when there are plenty of packets in the house.
If there’s a spate of wrong numbers, it may not be burglars …
If your wife after always dressing scruffily for the office suddenly starts smartening herself up, shaving her legs, buying new underwear, and getting home late.
If she doesn’t look dismayed when you say you’re going to America for three weeks.
If she is home all day and the loo seat is up when you get home.
If she suddenly gets sexually revved up. Women are like machines, the more they’re used the better they work.
If she starts suggesting you make love to her standing on your head, she may have been reading the Kama Sutra .
If she starts leaving intellectual books by the bed, or tidying the house frantically in the morning …
If you have a man friend to stay, and he knows where to put things away when he’s doing the drying up.
If you’re both out to work and you come home and find the towels all tidy in the bathroom instead of scrumpled up as usual. Or if the cat isn’t hungry …
If the cat isn’t hungry
Coming unstuck
EVERYONE CAN MAKE a mistake, and there’s no point in a couple sticking together if
If you must have affaires, be discreet. The cardinal sin is to be found out. And when it’s all over and you’re feeling a louse and you want to clear your conscience, don’t indulge in tearful confessions to your husband and feel you’ve cleaned the slate. It will upset him quite unnecessarily.
DISCOVERY
If you do discover your husband is having an affaire with someone, and he doesn’t know you know, play it cool. It may blow over. Remember, ‘the robb’d that smiles steals something from the thief.’
If you find out, and your partner knows you know, the only solution is to raise hell, and insist that it stops immediately. Once you start condoning something like this, you’re lost. Usually the jolt of your finding out and minding so much is enough to make him give up the other person, in which case welcome him home like the prodigal son, and never never reproach him again.
People often have affaires as a bid for more attention from their partners and purposely leave clues so that their partners will find out and be jolted into loving them more. So if you discover your husband is having an affaire with someone, have a look at your own behaviour before you blame him to see if it’s you who’s at fault.
A FEW PRACTICAL SUGGESTIONS
If your wife seems like a bolter, put her on the same passport, then you won’t waste a fortune in air tickets getting her back.
If you suspect your partner is having an affaire with a particular person, go into howls of immoderate laughter every time that person’s name is mentioned. When they ask why you’re laughing, laugh some more and say no one takes that idiot seriously. Nothing douses passion quicker than ridicule. I really fancied a man once, until someone pointed out he looked like Dracula.
DETECTION
There are a number of indications that your partner is having an affaire with someone:
If your husband insists he’s been lunching at the local with the boys, and comes home reeking of garlic, gets out a packet of matches with the Mirabelle printed on it, and lights a king-size cigarette when he normally smokes Woodbines.
If he starts a pointless row at breakfast, so he can storm out of the house, and needn’t come back until late.
If he suddenly starts working late consistently and comes home smelling of scent.
If he looks happy on a Monday morning, and miserable on a Friday night.
If he suddenly starts having a bath in the morning.
If the distance between the ends of his tie is different in the morning from the evening.
If he keeps making ridiculous excuses to buy more cigarettes during the weekend when there are plenty of packets in the house.
If there’s a spate of wrong numbers, it may not be burglars …
If your wife after always dressing scruffily for the office suddenly starts smartening herself up, shaving her legs, buying new underwear, and getting home late.
If she doesn’t look dismayed when you say you’re going to America for three weeks.
If she is home all day and the loo seat is up when you get home.
If she suddenly gets sexually revved up. Women are like machines, the more they’re used the better they work.
If she starts suggesting you make love to her standing on your head, she may have been reading the Kama Sutra .
If she starts leaving intellectual books by the bed, or tidying the house frantically in the morning …
If you have a man friend to stay, and he knows where to put things away when he’s doing the drying up.
If you’re both out to work and you come home and find the towels all tidy in the bathroom instead of scrumpled up as usual. Or if the cat isn’t hungry …
If the cat isn’t hungry
Coming unstuck
EVERYONE CAN MAKE a mistake, and there’s no point in a couple sticking together if
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