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vitro fertilization. Unfortunately the lack of knowledge about a disease does not prohibit one from passing it on to somebody else. If you have sex with someone who is carrying a sexually transmitted disease, you can get it, too.
Remember, your eyes won't keep you sexually safe, your mind will.
STDs can be spread through vaginal, oral, and anal sex. Some can also be spread through any contact between the penis, vagina, mouth, or anus, even without intercourse. Sexually transmitted diseases can be spread from man to woman, woman to man, man to man, and woman to woman. Several STDs can be spread from mother to child at birth or through breast milk. And, as you probably are already aware, sharing needles can spread STDs, such as HIV.
There is only one way to be 100 percent sure you don't get a sexually transmitted disease: to remain abstinent. But for those of us interested in becoming sexually masterful that does seem a trifle unrealistic, does it not? Almost equally as safe, which we'll get into thoroughly in Chapter 6, is to give and receive pleasure solely by the use of the hands. Provided your hands have no open wounds, abrasions, or cracked skin, this form of sexual pleasure is virtually risk free, and with a bit of know-how and creativity, manual stimulation can be a most fulfilling form of sexual pleasure. Still, variety is the spice of life, and even the most exciting form of pleasure in exclusion of all others can become monotonous after a while. What we can do is make sex as safe as possible and dramatically reduce the risk of contracting an STD. Meeting a stranger's eyes across a crowded room and falling into bed with him without so much as an exchange of names is a scene best left for Fantasy Island. Responsible adults talk about sex beforehand. Until you've both tested negative for all sexually transmitted diseases and waited the appropriate incubation period to ensure a clean bill of health (without engaging in any risk behaviors, such as unprotected sex with another partner or IV drug use), you should agree up front to use condoms every single time you engage in vaginal, oral, or anal sex. Condoms are now available for men and women, so you should both carry some at all times, just in case. Even genital-to-genital contact without intercourse can transmit STDs such as HIV or syphilis. Foreplay involving any contact at all without condoms can be a problem.
Now, the female condom will protect you from unwanted pregnancy, and from diseases obtained through vaginal and anal sex. But it will not protect you from diseases that can be contracted by oral sex, as regular condoms can.
You can also reduce the risk of contracting an STD by limiting your sexual partners. You are more likely to get a sexually transmitted disease if either of you has more than one partner. That's why the value of trust should never go underestimated in a relationship. What is often brushed aside or chalked up as one little indiscretion could literally be a matter of life and death. This is not a judgment; it's a fact. If you can justify a reason to cheat on your lover or spouse, that's your business. But please, he safe.
Finally, if you use intravenous drugs, don't share needles.
The Diseases
The following is a list of common sexually transmitted diseases along with their symptoms, potential dangers, treatments, and cures. This list is for your general information. It is not wise, under any circumstances, to self-diagnose when it comes to personal health. Several of these symptoms can be caused by factors other than an STD, and as I said earlier, many STDs can exist for a very long time before any symptoms are noticeable. If you think you have an STD, see your doctor. Smarter still, if you have engaged in risk behaviors, for your (and your partner's) health, get tested during a regular physical exam.
If your physician confirms your suspicions, follow the medication instructions to the letter, and tell you partner or
partners immediately There is
Remember, your eyes won't keep you sexually safe, your mind will.
STDs can be spread through vaginal, oral, and anal sex. Some can also be spread through any contact between the penis, vagina, mouth, or anus, even without intercourse. Sexually transmitted diseases can be spread from man to woman, woman to man, man to man, and woman to woman. Several STDs can be spread from mother to child at birth or through breast milk. And, as you probably are already aware, sharing needles can spread STDs, such as HIV.
There is only one way to be 100 percent sure you don't get a sexually transmitted disease: to remain abstinent. But for those of us interested in becoming sexually masterful that does seem a trifle unrealistic, does it not? Almost equally as safe, which we'll get into thoroughly in Chapter 6, is to give and receive pleasure solely by the use of the hands. Provided your hands have no open wounds, abrasions, or cracked skin, this form of sexual pleasure is virtually risk free, and with a bit of know-how and creativity, manual stimulation can be a most fulfilling form of sexual pleasure. Still, variety is the spice of life, and even the most exciting form of pleasure in exclusion of all others can become monotonous after a while. What we can do is make sex as safe as possible and dramatically reduce the risk of contracting an STD. Meeting a stranger's eyes across a crowded room and falling into bed with him without so much as an exchange of names is a scene best left for Fantasy Island. Responsible adults talk about sex beforehand. Until you've both tested negative for all sexually transmitted diseases and waited the appropriate incubation period to ensure a clean bill of health (without engaging in any risk behaviors, such as unprotected sex with another partner or IV drug use), you should agree up front to use condoms every single time you engage in vaginal, oral, or anal sex. Condoms are now available for men and women, so you should both carry some at all times, just in case. Even genital-to-genital contact without intercourse can transmit STDs such as HIV or syphilis. Foreplay involving any contact at all without condoms can be a problem.
Now, the female condom will protect you from unwanted pregnancy, and from diseases obtained through vaginal and anal sex. But it will not protect you from diseases that can be contracted by oral sex, as regular condoms can.
You can also reduce the risk of contracting an STD by limiting your sexual partners. You are more likely to get a sexually transmitted disease if either of you has more than one partner. That's why the value of trust should never go underestimated in a relationship. What is often brushed aside or chalked up as one little indiscretion could literally be a matter of life and death. This is not a judgment; it's a fact. If you can justify a reason to cheat on your lover or spouse, that's your business. But please, he safe.
Finally, if you use intravenous drugs, don't share needles.
The Diseases
The following is a list of common sexually transmitted diseases along with their symptoms, potential dangers, treatments, and cures. This list is for your general information. It is not wise, under any circumstances, to self-diagnose when it comes to personal health. Several of these symptoms can be caused by factors other than an STD, and as I said earlier, many STDs can exist for a very long time before any symptoms are noticeable. If you think you have an STD, see your doctor. Smarter still, if you have engaged in risk behaviors, for your (and your partner's) health, get tested during a regular physical exam.
If your physician confirms your suspicions, follow the medication instructions to the letter, and tell you partner or
partners immediately There is
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