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Agreement Through Sexual Bondages
“I lost my heart to her!” “I gave her my heart!” “My life is wrapped up in her/him!” “She/he stole my heart!” “She/he is my life.” These poor confessions build unhealthy soul-ties with an ex-wife, husband, fiancée, or with a sexual partner or lover, especially when consummated with adultery, fornication, or homosexual activities.
The hardest ties for the victim to understand, and for the one ministering to discover, are those ties formed through relationships which seemed innocent, where “nothing happened” (i.e. there was neither physical contact nor any sexual contact). Yet, somehow, soul-ties were formed and the bondages exist, based on the testimonies of the people involved. The symptoms may be identical to those where there was actual sexual contact. This may be explained in part by Jesus’ statement:
But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Matt. 5:28
Merely looking with wrong motivation can be very dangerous, as King David learned, much to his regret.
Pornographic Soul-Ties
Pornography can create a soul-tie with the object of lust. For example, a man who never met a Hollywood star can have a soul-tie with her image. Through such images, and acts of masturbation, he has idolized her, or has had her as a sexual partner in his fantasy. There is a very real tie that can form — a giving up of a part of one’s self to the object of lust.
God takes a harsh view toward sexual sins:
But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers , and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone.
Rev. 21:8
Sexual soul-ties are often created by a man looking upon a woman’s body, beholding her nakedness. Sin enters via the eye gate, by looking upon her... and lust results. The same thing can happen to women who look at the nakedness of a man, or allow their thoughts to linger unchecked upon him. A confirmation of the concept of looking in lust leading to a soul-tie is found in Scripture.
And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her. And his soul clave unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the damsel...
Gen. 34:2–3
The same thing happens when we choose adulterous relationships, or open ourselves up to demonic ties through Internet pornography.
Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.
1 Cor. 6:15–16
Fornication and Adultery
A common unhealthy and evil soul-tie exists between ex-lovers who have not married each other. By definition these individuals have entered into a sexual union by which they have been made “one flesh” outside the covenants of God. They have entered into a union and consummated that union sexually, becoming thereby one flesh. The result is a lingering soul-tie. The problem of being “love-sick” or “heart-sick” is a reality. Even Shakespeare wrote of such cases.
Some experience obsession because of these ties, and this can become extremely tormenting. It is not uncommon to encounter those who testify that their minds are tortured, and that they are unable to get the words, or images, of the other partner out of their thoughts. Psychology speaks of this condition as a mind-link; we see it as a soul-tie.
This phenomenon usually manifests when the relationship is threatened, when one of the lovers is attempting to break off contact with the other. This is not the compulsion simply to see one another, often experienced by those in love when a relationship is breaking up or doing badly, but rather a compulsion bordering upon an obsession to be
Agreement Through Sexual Bondages
“I lost my heart to her!” “I gave her my heart!” “My life is wrapped up in her/him!” “She/he stole my heart!” “She/he is my life.” These poor confessions build unhealthy soul-ties with an ex-wife, husband, fiancée, or with a sexual partner or lover, especially when consummated with adultery, fornication, or homosexual activities.
The hardest ties for the victim to understand, and for the one ministering to discover, are those ties formed through relationships which seemed innocent, where “nothing happened” (i.e. there was neither physical contact nor any sexual contact). Yet, somehow, soul-ties were formed and the bondages exist, based on the testimonies of the people involved. The symptoms may be identical to those where there was actual sexual contact. This may be explained in part by Jesus’ statement:
But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Matt. 5:28
Merely looking with wrong motivation can be very dangerous, as King David learned, much to his regret.
Pornographic Soul-Ties
Pornography can create a soul-tie with the object of lust. For example, a man who never met a Hollywood star can have a soul-tie with her image. Through such images, and acts of masturbation, he has idolized her, or has had her as a sexual partner in his fantasy. There is a very real tie that can form — a giving up of a part of one’s self to the object of lust.
God takes a harsh view toward sexual sins:
But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers , and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone.
Rev. 21:8
Sexual soul-ties are often created by a man looking upon a woman’s body, beholding her nakedness. Sin enters via the eye gate, by looking upon her... and lust results. The same thing can happen to women who look at the nakedness of a man, or allow their thoughts to linger unchecked upon him. A confirmation of the concept of looking in lust leading to a soul-tie is found in Scripture.
And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her. And his soul clave unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the damsel...
Gen. 34:2–3
The same thing happens when we choose adulterous relationships, or open ourselves up to demonic ties through Internet pornography.
Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.
1 Cor. 6:15–16
Fornication and Adultery
A common unhealthy and evil soul-tie exists between ex-lovers who have not married each other. By definition these individuals have entered into a sexual union by which they have been made “one flesh” outside the covenants of God. They have entered into a union and consummated that union sexually, becoming thereby one flesh. The result is a lingering soul-tie. The problem of being “love-sick” or “heart-sick” is a reality. Even Shakespeare wrote of such cases.
Some experience obsession because of these ties, and this can become extremely tormenting. It is not uncommon to encounter those who testify that their minds are tortured, and that they are unable to get the words, or images, of the other partner out of their thoughts. Psychology speaks of this condition as a mind-link; we see it as a soul-tie.
This phenomenon usually manifests when the relationship is threatened, when one of the lovers is attempting to break off contact with the other. This is not the compulsion simply to see one another, often experienced by those in love when a relationship is breaking up or doing badly, but rather a compulsion bordering upon an obsession to be
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