general loathing for Pat and Lou, a disgust expressed through passive avoidance, active shunning, and the occasional high-pitched catcall? I discovered later that my mom, bless her, is a total fag hag. And my dad always hated bulliesâit trumped his ambivalence about the gay thing.)
Pat and Lou did cocktail hour nightly from a pair of velour bucket chairs, in their beam-ceilinged, ranch-style canyon house overlookingmasses of scarlet and purple irises under the oaks. They put on matching poplin jumpsuits and corduroy house moccasins to sip Gibsons, tossing nuts to Kurt, their sleek miniature schnauzer, from fingers studded with big-jeweled cocktail rings. On nights when my parents would go to the Iron Gate restaurant for shrimp scampi and saltimbocca, they dropped us boys off at Pat and Louâs for babysitting.
On those nights, Lou would cook us crazy shit our mom never fixed, food so rich no adult should ever serve it to a ten-year-old. There were casseroles that used Monterey Jack as a suspension medium for olives, ground veal, and button mushrooms from a can. And there were Louâs famous burgers, so rich and salty, so crusted with a mixture of caramelized onions, Roquefort crumbles, and Grey Pouponâa thick impasto gilded beneath the electric broiler elementâI could only ever eat half before feeling sick. I loved every bite.
Looking back, I recognize in Louâs burgers my first taste of food that didnât give a fuck about nutrition or the drab strictures of home economics. They were calibrated for adult pleasure, acutely expressive of a formalized richnessâexactly the type of thing James Beard taught Americans to eat (for all I know, Louâs recipe was straight out of Beard). I see them now, those burgers, as unflinchingly, unapologetically, magnificently queer.
By 1970, Americaâs interest in food had finally progressed from the stale international haute cuisine of the 1950sâwe were more curious about the world, and were willing to spend more on food and travel than ever before. Three gay guysâBeard, Richard Olney, and Craig Claiborneâwould become architects of modern food in America. You find their influence in the cooking of Thomas Keller and Daniel Patterson, and in the food Alice Waters has overseen in four decades of menus at Chez Panisse. Itâs food that takes pleasure seriously, as an end in itself, an assertion of politics or a human birthright, the product of cultureâthis is the legacy of gay food writers who shaped modern American food.
I admit, itâs tricky pinning something as sprawling and amorphous as modern American cooking to anything as poorly defined as a queer point of view, and an exclusively male one at that. I first struggled with that task in the late â80s, when I was writing about food for the Sentinel , a now-defunct gay weekly in San Francisco. My editor,the late Eric Hellman, would always ask, âIs there a gay sensibility? Can you see it in a work of art?â
As I was falling in love with Louâs Roquefort burgers, a gay activist in New Mexico named Harry Hay was launching a movement called the Radical Faeriesâtheyâd go off for days-long Faerie Circles in the wilderness, like all-male mini Burning Mans, only with psilocybin-fueled circle jerks. Hay was a founder of the early gay rights group the Mattachine Society. By 1970, heâd come to the conclusion that gay men were spiritually different from straight onesâhomosexuals had always been shamans and prophets, jeered, beaten dead or barely tolerated, living on the margins. (Hay, who died in 2002, was anti-assimilationist, meaning he would have been horrified to see the current struggle for gay people to achieve hetero marriage.) Gay guys were artists, form-givers, shapers of the broader culture that hated them.
I donât totally buy Hayâs theory of queer exceptionalism, but my editorâs questionâis there a gay