genitals), can involve transmission of sexually transmitted diseases.
Oral Sex
Let’s define what is meant by oral sex. The medical definition of sex is any genital contact at all, whether hand to genitals, mouth to genitals, or genitals to genitals. Oral sex is the act of putting one’s mouth, lips, or tongue on another person’s genitals with the intention of sexually arousing and stimulating the other person to orgasm. Cunnilingus 2 is the term for orallystimulating a woman’s vulva and clitoris. Fellatio 3 is the act of orally stimulating a man’s penis. Performing oral sex on a boy is also called “giving head,” “giving a blow job” or “going down on.” When girls are receiving it is also called “going down on.” Oral sex counts as sex.
Some people believe that oral sex is a way to remain a virgin and not have to worry about getting pregnant. Another belief is that it’s a way to avoid getting an STI. This is not true.
You can get HIV, herpes, chlamydia, gonorrhea, and trichomoniasis through oral sex. You can also feel just as emotionally involved and therefore vulnerable. To avoid contracting an STI, you must perform fellatio with a condom and cunnilingus with a “dental dam” (a piece of latex covering the female’s vulva).
Don’t believe that oral sex doesn’t count as sex. It does. I have talked with so many girls who have given their dates oral sex thinking that way they could keep their virginity. But afterward, they felt bad—about the experience and about themselves. Girls your age might do this as a way to keep a boyfriend or do what she thinks her friends are doing but, instead, it just gives her a reputation as being “easy” or “fast,” gives pleasure to a boy who may not really care about her, and does nothing for her except, maybe, give her an STI that may never go away! Some boys try to talk girls into giving them oral sex by saying that sperm prevents breast cancer or that it “makes your skin glow.” Girls, show you’re smarter than they think and just laugh at these myths.
No matter what anyone says, oral sex is an intimate act forboth partners that can leave you feeling used and ashamed if you are not with someone you care about and who cares about you. It can, however, be a beautiful and satisfying experience if you are old enough, in a loving, sensual, trusting relationship.
Orgasm
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During orgasm, you will experience a strong surge of sexual pleasure, marked by rhythmic muscle contractions around your genitals. Some orgasms can be short in duration and give you sensations right around your genitals, while other orgasms may last longer and feel like a powerful, full-body experience. After orgasm, your body goes through a resolution phase that is often marked by a sense of relaxation, tension reduction, and well-being.
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1 orgasm ( awr -gaz-uhm): a strong surge of sexual pleasure, marked by rhythmic muscle contractions around the genitals in women and ejaculation in men
2 cunnilingus (kuhn-l- ing -guhs)
3 fellatio (fuh- lay -shee-oh)
11.
The Decision to Have Sex, Communication About Sex, and Common Questions
The Decision to Have Sex
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The decision about when to begin to have sexual intercourse is affected by how you were raised, your religious beliefs and values, your age, what your parents have told you about how they feel on the subject (if they’ve discussed these things at all), and when you are in a loving relationship. The goal is to wait until you have a committed relationship with a trusting partner with whom you can freely communicate.
Ultimately, the decision to become sexually active is your own. This gives you a lot of freedom but it also requires thoughtfulness and responsibility.
What is most critical is that your decision about moving to a more serious, sexual relationship is just that, serious, as opposed to it just happening in the heat of passion, or because you were drinking, or were pressured, or wanted to
Oral Sex
Let’s define what is meant by oral sex. The medical definition of sex is any genital contact at all, whether hand to genitals, mouth to genitals, or genitals to genitals. Oral sex is the act of putting one’s mouth, lips, or tongue on another person’s genitals with the intention of sexually arousing and stimulating the other person to orgasm. Cunnilingus 2 is the term for orallystimulating a woman’s vulva and clitoris. Fellatio 3 is the act of orally stimulating a man’s penis. Performing oral sex on a boy is also called “giving head,” “giving a blow job” or “going down on.” When girls are receiving it is also called “going down on.” Oral sex counts as sex.
Some people believe that oral sex is a way to remain a virgin and not have to worry about getting pregnant. Another belief is that it’s a way to avoid getting an STI. This is not true.
You can get HIV, herpes, chlamydia, gonorrhea, and trichomoniasis through oral sex. You can also feel just as emotionally involved and therefore vulnerable. To avoid contracting an STI, you must perform fellatio with a condom and cunnilingus with a “dental dam” (a piece of latex covering the female’s vulva).
Don’t believe that oral sex doesn’t count as sex. It does. I have talked with so many girls who have given their dates oral sex thinking that way they could keep their virginity. But afterward, they felt bad—about the experience and about themselves. Girls your age might do this as a way to keep a boyfriend or do what she thinks her friends are doing but, instead, it just gives her a reputation as being “easy” or “fast,” gives pleasure to a boy who may not really care about her, and does nothing for her except, maybe, give her an STI that may never go away! Some boys try to talk girls into giving them oral sex by saying that sperm prevents breast cancer or that it “makes your skin glow.” Girls, show you’re smarter than they think and just laugh at these myths.
No matter what anyone says, oral sex is an intimate act forboth partners that can leave you feeling used and ashamed if you are not with someone you care about and who cares about you. It can, however, be a beautiful and satisfying experience if you are old enough, in a loving, sensual, trusting relationship.
Orgasm
----
During orgasm, you will experience a strong surge of sexual pleasure, marked by rhythmic muscle contractions around your genitals. Some orgasms can be short in duration and give you sensations right around your genitals, while other orgasms may last longer and feel like a powerful, full-body experience. After orgasm, your body goes through a resolution phase that is often marked by a sense of relaxation, tension reduction, and well-being.
----
1 orgasm ( awr -gaz-uhm): a strong surge of sexual pleasure, marked by rhythmic muscle contractions around the genitals in women and ejaculation in men
2 cunnilingus (kuhn-l- ing -guhs)
3 fellatio (fuh- lay -shee-oh)
11.
The Decision to Have Sex, Communication About Sex, and Common Questions
The Decision to Have Sex
----
The decision about when to begin to have sexual intercourse is affected by how you were raised, your religious beliefs and values, your age, what your parents have told you about how they feel on the subject (if they’ve discussed these things at all), and when you are in a loving relationship. The goal is to wait until you have a committed relationship with a trusting partner with whom you can freely communicate.
Ultimately, the decision to become sexually active is your own. This gives you a lot of freedom but it also requires thoughtfulness and responsibility.
What is most critical is that your decision about moving to a more serious, sexual relationship is just that, serious, as opposed to it just happening in the heat of passion, or because you were drinking, or were pressured, or wanted to
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