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her explicit repudiation of my major decisions, my mom retained a filament of enthusiasm for having given birth, just over a quarter of a century ago, to a relatively functional son. Now, given that a deceptively golden wedding ring adorns my finger, tying me, like a prison tattoo, to a way of life she disapproves of, her expectations have been notably devalued. We don’t speak so often on the phone now, and when we do, her voice acquires the same tired tone she used when I was a boy and she, taking refuge in a migraine, would send me to my room, giving rise to a sharp pang of sadness inside me.
    She reproaches me, of course, for not having studied something. And not just anything, naturally: a profession with demonstrable social utility would have been her choice for me. A lawyer, a rural doctor, or even an economist, just so long as I opted for a project that would include the most vulnerable communities. Anything, in fact, that would demonstrate I was concerned about giving continuity, during my lifetime, to her now-diminished desire to change the world. My mother holds youth in very high esteem since hers was intense and madcap, very much in keeping with the times. She therefore hoped my youth would act as a culture medium for asensitive, decisive character, and not be a fleeting preamble to obesity and tedium. From her point of view, ingenuousness is a concept to be defended during at least the first thirty years of existence, and for a couple of years more that characteristic should translate into a sustained interest in changing the world, even if you then relinquish that desire. The fact that I, from early adolescence, and once my flirtation with drugs was behind me, had begun to exhibit a prebureaucratic attitude as if affiliating myself to the most insipid strand of character, causes my mom a sense of disillusion equivalent to dishonor. My marriage to a secretary—even though she, my mother, would never dare admit it—is the last straw.
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    I have a few thoughts of a general nature about marriage and the limits that should be imposed on it to preserve, as far as possible, some notion of personal decency. First, never, under any circumstances, will I allow Cecilia to defecate while I’m taking a shower. This incontrovertible point cannot be refuted by watertight folding doors or blue patterned shower curtains—it’s a crucial, life-defining question. Second, it should be clear to both parties that I had no expectations of or genuine enthusiasm for the future before getting married. I don’t want such a fundamental aspect of my personality to be relegated, over time, to a collateral effect of the marriage into which we have contracted, taking all credit from my phlegm, so stoically overcome. Third, allowing that I’m willing to yield to many things—using ridiculous pet names when speaking to her: “my cute little piggywinks,” for example—nothing can convince me of the need to be sincere to my wife. (A parenthesis is needed here. At what inalterable juncture, at what hour, did sincerity and communication become related elements? Nothing is further from spontaneous intuition, popular wisdom, historical experience: communication is, precisely, the avoidance of sincerity in order to reach agreement.)
    Displaying a composure that, even to myself, seems astonishing, I attempted to elucidate these and other theoretical aspects of marriage in the company of my adored wife, talking as one adult to another. As soon as I said I found the idea of showering while she was shitting repugnant, she gave me a furious look and flounced out of the apartment. She returned half an hour later with a pack of cigarettes, a lighter, and her mascara streaked. “I’m going to start smoking,” she said. She’s now smoking in the living room while I get ready to take a shower.
    That was our first argument, and her reaction was heartening: instead of confrontation, a new vice.