family who so desperately wants to be a part of her life.
October 12, 2012
Dear Sophia,
I am your biological grandmother, Stormie Clark. Your father, Derek Underwood was my son. He tragically died in a car accident on December 28th, 2008. I am taking this opportunity to tell you everything that you need to know about your father and why you and I are purposely being kept apart.
Right now, I am unable to see you, per your mother's and grandmother's request. We live in the same town, Council Bluffs, Iowa, literally three miles apart. There is no good reason why you and I are being separated, other than sheer selfishness and jealousy. I have wanted to be a part of your life since day one. I will never stop trying to do so.
When your mom and dad dated for approximately two-and-a-half years, your mother and I did not see eye-to-eye, due to the way that she handled their relationship. There was a lot of jealousy and control.
This is my story to you….
Derek was born on May 8, 1990. He weighed 8 lbs., 8 oz. We lived on a farm outside of St. Joseph, Missouri for several years until we moved to the city. Derek loved being on the farm. He wasn't scared of anything. He would walk right up to a cow, a snake, a dog... He was fearless. He was also allergic to any kind of bee. (This is something that you should know. You may be as well.) Derek was a very happy little boy. He always had the biggest smile on his face. He was so full of life. He was also very close to his sisters: your aunts Kassy and Alissa. They were always together, even more so when they became teenagers.
When Derek was eight, he had a dog named Jody. He was a big animal lover. Jody became sick a year and a half into her life, and she passed away right around Thanksgiving. It broke my heart to see how upset he was. He cried for two weeks over that dog.
Derek broke both bones in his left arm when he was 11. He was at a friend's house and a boy purposely threw him off a trampoline. They did surgery and put Derek's arm in a cast, and he had to stay the night at the hospital. I stayed with him until he fell asleep then quickly ran home to check on his sisters, and to take a shower and bring him a change of clothes to wear home. I felt so bad leaving him. As I headed back, a song came on the radio called “You'll Be In My Heart” by Phil Collins. And I just lost it. I cried all the way to the hospital. I told Derek about it, and from that day on, it became “our song.” Whenever I heard that song, I would think of Derek. We played it at his funeral. To this day, I fall apart whenever it comes on the radio.
Derek's father and I divorced when he was eight. Derek, his sisters and I made a new start, and moved to Council Bluffs. His dad and I had made visitation arrangements to meet every other weekend. Derek's dad and I eventually remarried, and were both happy. My husband, Mike, was a wonderful stepfather to Derek and his sisters. We were very blessed to have him walk into our lives. Derek loved to fish, and would go on annual fishing trips to south Missouri with his Grandpa Neil. Derek loved anything that had to do with the outdoors. We went on several vacations to Branson, Missouri. That's where Derek met his first girlfriend.
Derek was a very handsome young man, and very popular with the ladies. He was also an amazing athlete. He played baseball right up to his senior year. He was in cross-country, wrestling, basketball. But he also loved swing choir. He wanted to play football, but I felt that it was too dangerous for him. I have filmed all of his sporting events, and would love to show them to you someday. I also have home videos of all of our holidays and school functions.
In high school, lots of girls wanted to date him. He had a few relationships, but your mom was the only girl that he had ever brought home for me to meet. She seemed sweet and was very pretty. They were a cute couple and looked very happy together.
My husband Mike and I
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